Easier to socialise in this enviorment?

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One of my friends said to me the other day in regards to being social and autism "when socialising in bars/nightclubs your disability becomes more pronounced whereas in social or gaming clubs it's easier for you to fit in"

So why do you think that could be true?

pretty much, notice my posts, if you read through them they are very well written if i do say so myself with confidence and a well composed manner. but in real life, im very quiet, stumbling over my words a lot and very withdrawn. im basically terrible in real life, yet here im fine.

Nightclubs has loud music, making it hard to have a conversation. And dancing is definently not my best way to blend in.

I'd say it's easier to socialize when there's a primary mutual goal/thing (as in a purpose to meet).

Yes it is, as long as you do not put yourself on a pedestal because of your excuses and give anyone giving subjective feedback the middle finger then you are fine.

I do not like it when people look at me as though I am in vain.

You ask dor advice, you bear it, because you asked for it regardless of what it is.

You mock people because of their feedback or advice and constantly expect to be petted like a dog all the time with advice....


Well I got no hope for you wherever you walk from nightclub or game place.

So please accept people's criticism and debate without emotional infliction and you will be fine.

Otherwise you are constantly disrespectful.

Hardly any of you are children also, so if we can ditch this 3rd grader poor kid getting bullied by a 5th grader rich kid childishness behavior on every side possible, I am fine.

Otherwise I am going to be easily irritated when you try to lash your misery on the person trying to realistically help you be happy.

I get sick of emo kids giving me the constant miserable: "I HAVE BEEN IN VIETNAM" excuse over and over again. It get easily repetive and disrespectful and annoying after a while. Does being in Vietnam make you smarter or more sensible than anyone? No.

Sorry for the brashness.

In general, I find it easier to deal with small talk when it is over a shared interest, which is more likely with the social or gaming groups you mentioned. With nightclubs, there can be the confusion of alcohol, lots of extra sensory input (lights, sounds), and plenty of subtext or confusing flirting or social interactions going on that might not occur in other settings.

Well, in the gaming and social clubs, you are more at-ease (normally); if you are not constantly "defending" against the environment, it becomes easier to socialise as a direct consequence.

This is even aside from the point that you will have a common interest/hobby, which gives you a topic for conversation

Maybe that's because the extreme 'skills' of 'regular' people are exercised really well in places like nightclubs. Regular people flourish there. For people who may not have those skills, obviously they may be the least likely to flourish in that environment.

What are nightclubs anyway apart from places to unwind after a long week or hookup? There are plenty of other activities that are just as and more fulfilling for everyone to engage in, regular or aspie.