Friend went public and said horrible things about my autism

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To cut a long story short a 'friend' of mine went to a television programmes social media where she had a massive go at the way my social media posts come across to her. She is ignorant of autism and made horrible comments such as, 'she is attention seeking', 'she is annoying' and 'She sounds like a broken radio'. These things ended up going to national television during a Q&A where I was unfairly blasted.

I don't have a lot of people on my Facebook just family and close friends and I hate attention being on myself, yet this (now ex) friend of mine thought it would be appropriate to go to television about me and have it aired as she wanted a few minutes fame.

She said it was an accident that she made these comments but how could calling me all these horrible things and writing 'lol' at the end of her sentences be an accident? How could she write a slanderous piece of rubbish trying to look like a good friend asking for advice knowing fine well there was a chance her comments would be aired?

This keeps going round and round in my head and I've gone mute after the comments being made about my voice.

How do I bounce back from this?

I am sorry she did that because it a not very nice of her. On the contrary, she sounds like someone who appeared to be your friend but was really latching onto you so she could hurt you. She sounds destructive. What a snake.

You might consider contacting the tv station and seeing if you could show them who you are along with also telling them what autism is really like.

I went to ofcom but it appears that they have not got back into contact with me. I think I may contact the show privately and alert them to the issue of this girl bullying me on their social media page - I feel this girl may not recognise her actions as being serious until she hears her 'idols' slam her for her behaviour. I know we will never fully be able to stamp out bullying, but it would probably boil the girls blood if I ended up on their show promoting autism awareness. I have thought over the course of today thinking about maybe doing a sponsored shark dive at my old workplace to raise money for autism charities.

Yeah it would make her blood boil because it shows that she has lost and you will win. The best thing to do would not be to talk about her or the horrible things that she said but rather to prove her wrong by being an example.

Sounds horrible. I hope you remember that what she says, she says. She is digging her own dirt and all her negative comments reflect her mind - a mind making up reasons to put another person down in front of others.

Sometimes honest criticism is needed, but her behavior, mocking and shaming you publicly, rather than discussing what she has on her mind directly with you when she has the opportunity, highlights the sole bullying nature of her behavior.

So try not to take it to your heart. I know, easier said than done...

Like you said, maybe you could tell your side of the story, but not to put her down equally, but to show that in this real life, at the receiving end, there is a real person with feelings. A person who can get hurt and whose life can take a sad turn based on choices other people make.

These "accidents" could be prevented by keeping just that one thing in mind.

All the best.

Thanks for the good advice. I have tried to put it out of my mind in recent days as she's still continuing to make comments about me publicly in the hopes they will be broadcast too.

I screenshot the posts and sent them to the television programmes email address, just waiting for a response as ofcom cannot do anything as her geographical location or surname was not mentioned on the television, or my name.

I'm not very good at detecting bullying, would this be considered cyber bullying? As I believe it to be so, but cannot be 100% sure what this kind of behaviour falls under. It's quite sad when people take advantage of not being able to work out people's emotions - I felt it better not to respond to her, but she has lost a lot of Facebook friends due to it as well as people think what she's doing is horrible.

I haven't seen the comments but it sounds a lot like that and especially when she keeps telling you that her posts are an "Accident." This person reminds me of a bully in a movie called "Odd Girl Out" where she is nice to the victim's face but nasty behind her back.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o1gFYzQ ... jDaGJ_sAR1

I will have a watch of that. I just cannot understand why someone would do this. I get told by people you will never have the full answers to things like this, but that's hard for me to process.

It sounds like she is doing this because she knows that it gets to you.

Some people enjoy using and manipulating others and she may be one of them, she's obviously two faced. I'm sorry you're in this terrible situation. Her comments will catch back up to her eventually and the truth has a way of surfacing. Try to stay strong, manipulative people are self destructive, they hurt those around them and destroy friendships/relationships. When her time comes to be ridiculed, she won't have people to turn to for help.

This is just awful... No one deserves this kind of treatment.

If anything, it just shows her immaturity and how she isn't willing to let things go, and grudges are never good.

Hopefully you get things sorted out, because this kind of behavior is unacceptable.