Fixing Creepiness

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I get the feeling that many people on my college campus see me as weird or 'off', so to speak. Any thoughts on how to mitigate this? I think it has something to do with how I tend to stare off into space /constantly look around while walking. I'm also wondering if it's because I never traverse campus with someone else.

that may come across as odd, but if it's just that, then it doesn't sound like creepiness to me. i often stare off into space, i often look around while i'm walking, and i'm almost always alone, but people usually seem to find me approachable. creepiness is when someone has interests that other people find disturbing, or when someone doesn't seem to have proper boundaries in public or in social situations. i guess it's mostly about people having the impression that you're too interested in something you're not supposed to, according to what they believe is okay or not

I'm not even sure it isn't morally objectionable to fix our creepiness—after all, it's meant to weed us out of the gene pool.

spiderpig, i need to ask you... does your available healthcare system / health insurance maybe cover therapy? if you're depressed, it's worth a shot of course (it didn't work for me, but, eh, it works for some). and if you're not depressed, i think even more so, considering the things you say / have been saying about what essentially amounts to your right to even exist

You sound okay to me.

You're not eating bugs like Renfield ...

I suppose I just read too much into people's expressions when they look at me, or lack thereof. Many of them seem to be largely expressionless while walking around as well.

These are my personal thoughts.

Honestly I think allot of the time people are too focused and wound up in their own lives to take notice and judge someone's character for their facial expression.

If you are worried about people in your college campus thinking of you as weird a way to help get rid of that could be to familiarize yourself better and perhaps talk to some of your peers. People may still see you are eccentric and different but they will understand you a bit better and be less uncertain of you.

Honestly i think that you were to discern every incident in which you thought you came across as creepy. You would find yourself worried until the end of the time. The fact is it is who we are as people with Autism and Asperger's we sometimes exhibit odd behavior and get cues wrong, and we really should not blow that out of proportion to create some toxic assumption for our self.

If I could say something that would be reassuring it would be that those behaviors are not creepy. Creepy is when you press through someone's personal space and boundaries and from the looks of it you haven't done that.