Having a cocky personality

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My real self is probably that of a mix between a robot and an alien, which is not the way I want to be perceived.

I was wondering if it is a good idea to have a cocky/overconfident attitude to mask who I really am. I am tired of being seen as cute physically, but then a weirdo once someone gets to know me.

Should I mask my personality? Do any of you also mask your personalities? Any reply is appreciated.

"Be true to your DNA" -- Gary Vaynerchuck

Putting on a false personality is last thing you need. People will see right through it. What is meant by that quote is be true to yourself when interacting with people. People find you interesting when you are passionate about something and talk about it. Find people that appreciate you for who you are even if you think you're boring.

By the way I never thought a guy that is a social media marketing guru would give good advice on life. But I think Gary Vaynerchuck's book "Crush It" has much good advice to offer aspies in terms of social skills and being successful.

A little yes. I think a small amount af that helps men be successful in many areas of life. And its really not hard to fake. It gets hard to maintain, but so do all manufactured behaviors

Some one I know puts on a cocky personality and people don't like it. They just think he's loud and arrogant.

He just talks alot, loudly and makes jokes. When you have a one to one conversation with him he's actually quite interesting and not at all annoying. But the cockiness puts people off and they don't get to see that side.

What do you mean by cocky?

This is interesting. I know I have a noticably lower volume me when Im one on one with people myself. When I get into social situations that bring on insecurities I overcompensate by turning up the volume of me. This is not conscious. Not any longer. To some extent nevr was Ive just gained self awareness to its existence...

I do know a measured amount of confidence does help in the business world, any kind of comptetiton, and with most women. To not actually cross that line into cockyville is the challenge. Now I know some women are put off by any masculine confidence, but I think thats the minority depending on its tact and how natural it is.

Oh. I've just remembered why I stopped commenting on social skills threads. I'm British. We are quite reserved. American culture is different. We find it jarring when a loud American is around. They can come over obnoxious because of our social culture, don't take what I say as Gospel.

Possibly American women do like the more loud type.

No, I think thats sort of universal to a degree. Though I am loud. The annoying could use some work though probably...

I think the cocky/confident thing is less about loud and more about a little bold and unafraid. At its healthiest I think. I think a well measured mature amount of this rounds out character well in a man from what ive observed.

Cultivating a greater sense of confidence from increased self-love and self-acceptance is a good idea, but trying to be someone or something that you are not rarely ends well (and I speak from experience). Don't belittle or talk down to people or become loud and disruptive, but if being a bit more assertive and individualistic helps you out, go for it, there's no harm in that. In a world where you will often be seen as weird no matter what you do, being bold and unafraid as beakybird mentioned can do a world of good. So be bold, my friend! Be unafraid! Wear your truth with pride!