Can't find social events/friends in my area

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I'm male, 26, and I've tried dating apps and websites, meetup.com, you name it. I've even Googled interests with my city, nothing really comes up.

I also tried Discord groups that are limited to my country, to see if I can find anyone remotely local within my region, but no luck.

I looked at Reddit for my area, but it's just anti-neighbouring city posts all the time (spawned from the 2 football clubs being rivals of course), so no events or socialising or whatever there.

I'm in college (night school, retaking high school stuff), but everyone is much older than me or much younger, and not really any connection in getting any conversation going.

My area is dead for anyone over 22-23 really. If you're a 18-21 year old student into nightclubs and pubs, there's an unlimited source of them, but if you're any older than that, there's nothing to do, nobody to meet.

I don't want to meet friends under 23 because I find maturity level below that is different to me as a 26 year old man.

I don't know what else to do. I live alone, I have 2 friends who I rarely see (they are a couple so I'm just the third wheel really), but I want to find more friends, and a partner. My loneliness is really impacting my mental health.

I've been trying to help my loneliness out for 14 months and failing. I can assure you I'm doing nothing wrong, I'm just really unlucky in the place that I live (moving is not an option, but I'm moving abroad one day anyway, but that will be some years)

Have you considered volunteering? That way you could build up your work skills and meet people as well.

I can't, not whilst I'm doing college. It would be too much for me to deal with.

I assume you're not in south east London? As I suppose that would be impossible to say about that concentration of people...

Nah, not in London I'm afraid. I think I wouldn't be in my current situation if I was in London. Plenty of things going on there!

I am based in Kent and experience similar difficulties to those that you have stated. But admittedly I limit my opportunities to socialise as I am ashamed of who I am.

What about volunteering during the daytime?

Do you have game stores? Magic the gathering etc?

May I ask where you are based in the southeast area?