Why Are You So Quiet?

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Have you ever been asked questions along the lines of "Why Are You So Quiet?" This is a blog I posted about why it always has and always will irritate me when people ask me that question.

http://dwarren57.wordpress.com/2010/08/ ... -so-quiet/

yess. some guy told a new teacher I was the quiet one when she was asking who names on the register were. she just looked at me dead seriously and said 'why are you quiet?' wtf. wtf. wtf.

I am glad people actually agree with me. It truly is an irritating question for people to ask, and people can be extremely judgmental if you tell them the real reason why (I have Asperger's Syndrome).

Certainly I have been asked this question, a good 50 times in my life. I have never had a good reason why, or at least one that the person asking could really think or care about. The person asking usually makes fun of me later or never wants anything to do with me again.

I've spent some time on your blog reading things, and I want to assure you that I have been through a lot of the same stuff in school. Especially the story about the girl who acted like she loved you and wanted to be your friend, but it led to tough times. I remember someone I used to know who acted exactly the same towards me, but it was really their source of a good laugh.

Anyway, keep up your blog, it's great to know I'm not alone in AS difficulty.

It always irritates me when I get asked "Why are you so quiet?" That has happened on more than one occasion.

Yeah, people have asked me that or they've said things like "you're so soft spoken" when they seemed to miss that it was just that I was uninterested in them. I've no problem being loud if I need to be.

I think people ask that sort of thing because it makes them feel insecure or something.

I used to get asked this quite frequently. The answer was always that I just didn't have anything to say.

all the time

I get asked that question, from time to time. The thing that irritates me the most, is when I'm with a bunch of women. They will be talking about hair, guys and makeup, and I don't really have anything, to say. One of the women will ask me, why I'm so quiet. I also get told, that I'm soft spoken, a lot of the time.

I get asked that a lot. It's slightly annoying, but not a huge problem for me. My usual answer is "I just am."

Yeah, I get people commenting on my quietness all the time, as if they're pointing it out as a flaw of some sort. Or it's as if they're saying they're disappointed in me when they try and fail to engage me in conversation.

Why can't they go a single minute without opening their friggin' trap?

Next time someone asks me, I'mma say, "I dunno, why do you have [whatever] colour hair?"

People ask me that all the time. Then I feel them (my peers) staring at me and they are making fun of me "that quiet girl". They don't even know my name! Really, I'm shy around people my age, but I should say this:

"Why are you so quiet?"
"Because I don't like you"

OR

This

This question rritates the hell out of me. Especially when people act like they're doing me a favor by telling me I'm quiet and that I should "talk more." Um, if I could I would. But in the past when I did people hated what I had to say, so I only speak when I know what I have to say will be valued.

it kind of iritates me but sometimes people do it because they care about you and hope your ok. other times yeh it is annoying.

Well, for what it's worth, it won't go away. People STILL say that to me.

And many of you have the same reason I do, when you did try talking it didn't work.

Of course, with me if I do talk I can easily forget and monopolize the conversation. So it's better for everyone if I don't say anything. Yeah, those are my two choices. Oh well! Whatever.

Given the funny looks when I have run-off-at-the-mouth, I'd much rather be The Quiet One.

It's the Better Choice.
The Aspie Choice.