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leozelig
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16 Jan 2017, 7:03 pm

I'm starting to meet people a bit more and I am starting to have some of the same "issues" that I used to have. Mostly people not returning my calls. I am usually the one who always initiates contact anyway, with everyone, except my husband and parents. I don't know how many times do I need to try before just giving up on a person. I try to wait a couple of weeks just in case they might be busy, but I think it's rude to not at least get back to someone eventually, however long it is. I say, twice or three maximum attempts to make contact with a person is ok before I stop contacting them.

Also, I'm wondering if it's inappropriate to ask if I should just stop calling, or should I just assume they're not interesting and forget about them? I hate wasting my time on someone if they don't even wanna talk to me. I know some people can pretend to be nice but turn out to not be interested in being friends, which makes this all the more frustrating :/



HistoryGal
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16 Jan 2017, 9:52 pm

After two or three times, quit calling. The person isn't interested. They were just being fake nice.



This_Amoeba
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19 Jan 2017, 10:48 pm

A lot of people do the fake wanting to be friends thing. I remember in high school this girl used to invite me to shows and acted like she wanted to hang out all the time, so I would call her and leave messages but she never replied to them. It made me feel desperate, even though she was the one always saying "we should hang out sometime, call me!" People are so confusing. I think I have a problem with contacting people too much also. Not sure if it makes me seem obsessed or not.