This article (except the last one) describes me to a T

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Well, in 16 years of life, I've initiated a couple of one person sleepovers and a meal with some friends at KFC. Equally I've been invited to a few one person sleepovers, and aside from some birthday party invites in primary school, 0 parties.
I guess I'm doing alright? Although currently I'm in the turmoil of, "to party, or not to party". I want to go to a sixth form party at some point, but I know I'll know practically nobody that is there and will get really anxious, attempt to find a spare space to sit down in the corner in and play chess on my phone, then get disturbed by someone who wants some random and unexplained social interaction and then I'll just feel more anxious, perhaps claim the loo for about 15 minutes to avert a panic attack, and then repeat.

You sound like me in high school. I'm 29. I eventually started drinking at the parties because I felt I was more connected to the other people. But in reality I wasn't. I was just making problems for myself later in life. Now I wish I didn't try to fit in so hard with other people. I should have just stayed at home and practiced guitar. But, I was lonely and wanted nothing more than to be normal. I wasn't thinking of bettering myself. I just wanted to be like everyone else. And that has caused me the most issues. Trying to not be me and fit in with other people. It sucks. I feel at times that's all I want in life, is a place to fit in. A group of people I can always call friends. I'm still looking for that.