what did i do wrong?

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once (recently) i had a friend. he was my best friend. then one day, i introduced him a girl i knew from school. they fall in love together. oh, i was so happy that it was me helping them both to find their loves. i knew them before they knew each other and i thought, that now all three of us can hang out together. the opposite happened. from one day to another, they didn't want my company anymore (even though we lived in the same flat). they knew only each other. they seemed to be unaware of the outside world. they knew i don't have any other friends. i found it unfair. i told them i want to be with them. they asked me to stay away for a while. i tried to wait for couple of months, but nothing changed. then, i told them i don't want their friendships anymore. (now, we don't live at the same place.) i don't want to be around them, it hurts being in their company.

was it selfish of me wanting them to notice my existence when they were in love? i was never in love (i doubt i will ever be), so maybe it was normal what they did. i don't know.

people get like that when they are in love because love is dreadful ailment that the medical profession ought to do more about to cure.
I think that for the first couple of weeks it might have been excusable but then they should have made some effort to socialize with others, if only for their own sakes because all encompassing obsession with each other cannot be healthy in the longterm.
maybe though you should have just moved on quietly rather than announcing you ddin't want to be around them anymore as this makes it difficult to have the future option to rekindle the friendships.

hehe, a cure for love that's good...

yes, you are right, i should not have told them that i didn't want to be around them anymore, but after all i am not interested in rekindling the friendship. that's too risky. he feels bad about losing a friend. he told me so few days ago. but even after longer time, i still feel bad in their company. being around them reminded me the hard time i had. after any contact, i feel sad the next days. seems like i closed myself again a bit more.

i hope one day to fall in love and understand them...