Have I done something wrong?

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I have been trying to contact a friend of mine, a good friend, but one who values their personal space, as I do. As I couldnt get through on the usual methods, I phoned their home and left a message. I dont know if this is ok, I am afraid I have overstepped the mark in someway, I keep going over and over everything in my head and have got myself in a terrible state. I have never needed to phone their home before, although I have visited. I am very conscious of invading other's privacy, probably because I am protective of my own, although I would be more than happy for this friend to call me anywhere, anytime. I feel stupid and needy and an idiot and am terrified I have upset this friend, Please help, thanks and love from Marshmallow

Maybe they are just gone for a while, and have not checked their messages.
You seem very conscientious and respectful and I am sure it is probably just
a mix-up. I do a lot of that kind of "over"thinking and future "tripping" and
past 'tripping". My therapist has tried to teach me to stay in the present and
focus on my breathing (which I kind of hate doing) but I try. If they are avoiding
you (which I doubt) and not communicating with you to punish you, then they
surely might not be the kind of friends you would want, methinks.

I've had that happen to me a few times where somebody that I think of as a pretty good friend just suddenly stops talking to me or returning my calls and I just can't figure out why. And I was pretty upset about it. This has happened maybe 3 or 4 times.

Not saying it is exactly the same thing in your case right now, but I can kind of relate to the idea.

Thanks for replying I really appreciate it.Sometimes I think I am in some way addicted to being in an over emotional state,I dont like it, yet I seem to work myself into it.Im middle aged, with a growing up family and I am lucky enough to have love and support, yet I act like a teenager sometimes, (no offence to teenagers, I think they are some of the wisest and most entertaining people ever)!
Hope you are all ok and hanging on in there.

Is this person a friend, or an acquaintance? Is he an everywhere all purpose friend, or is your relationship limited to certain places and times ie the bar, work, baseball games. have you visited his home often or only a few times?

Hi beautifulspam, this person is mainly a work friend but we have met up on several occassions and visited each others homes.Thanks for listening

Ok, if he's mainly a work friend, maybe that's why you felt that you had crossed a "line" when you left a message on his machine?