What activities/hobbies do you do to meet new people?

Page 1 of 1 [ 6 posts ] 

lenin1917
Emu Egg
Emu Egg

Joined: 23 Apr 2017
Age: 31
Gender: Male
Posts: 1
Location: Kent, UK

23 Apr 2017, 11:22 am

I'm 24 and want to meet new people but I don't know where to start. I have 2 really good friends, but they live far away and we can't meet up. I have a job too but can't meet people there because its only a small company (theres only 3 other people), plus I work with the same bloke all the time. We have almost nothing in common and I don't think he likes me anyway.
So I was thinking of some kind of activity or group I could do or go to in my spare time to meet new people, I was hoping to get some inspiration from you lot!

thanks



CyclopsSummers
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 21 Jun 2008
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,172
Location: The Netherlands

27 Apr 2017, 1:59 pm

I should mention I've had limited success actually meeting people I can hang out with or exchange ideas with, but I found myself in a similar predicament as you when I was 22/23 years old. Whilst I was working, I had no off-work social life. In order to change this, I first joined a Chinese language course, since I had an interest in linguistics and I'm partly of Chinese descent. I found I could get along with many classmates as well as with the teachers. Furthermore, I joined a widllife enthusiasts club that got together on occasion, since wildlife had been a special interest of mine when I was a child. This turned out to be a bit of a disappointment initially, but in recent years I've reconnected with this organisation and find their activities very stimulating.

Basically, I tend to join organisations/clubs based on my interests and hobbies. I've also found that the site meetup.com is very useful in connecting me to people with common interests.


_________________
clarity of thought before rashness of action


starkid
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 9 Feb 2012
Gender: Female
Posts: 5,812
Location: California Bay Area

27 Apr 2017, 10:15 pm

The activities/hobbies you enjoy.



Corny
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 28 Feb 2017
Age: 25
Gender: Male
Posts: 653
Location: Arkansas

28 Apr 2017, 9:22 am

Do you play video games? If so maybe play online multiplayer in a game you have and see if you can be friends with them online. Or even better meet people in person and have a gaming tournament.



crystaltermination
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 17 Nov 2016
Age: 34
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,029
Location: UK

01 May 2017, 7:37 pm

I've been working with the very same problem. I sometimes get intensely lonely and just want someone to talk to in person who isn't also a trained psychologist. :/ It's partly a matter of numbers: the more people one's exposed to, the increased possibility of (potentially!) making a friend, but I'd be lying if I said I'd gotten anywhere yet myself. Hopefully you will have better luck, but from what I've discovered (and really known all along) is that you can be in a room full of people, but without that damned instinct to take the initiative and make the first move in a conversation, it looks futile.
I signed up for yoga classes 7 months ago with this quest forefront in my mind. I really did think I would make friends this time around: yoga interests me and it does help me, but I unfortunately don't socialise with the other women there at all. They all talk to each other, but not me. The times I've tried to say something nice to one of the others, but I never say a word and they probably think I'm extremely rude. The instructor is nice, but she is very busy managing the classes, so we exchange pleasantries but little else. In any case, I think joining extracurricular classes, groups, and anything that catches your interest is still a way forward. If nothing else, it all adds towards making us more interesting human beings.


_________________
On hiatus thanks to someone in real life breaching my privacy here, without my permission! May be back one day. +tips hat+


Nav_Aspie
Butterfly
Butterfly

Joined: 10 Apr 2017
Age: 47
Gender: Male
Posts: 12

01 May 2017, 8:12 pm

I'd recommend going to back to school... not so much to get a degree (though that is a nice bonus) but to further study a field that aligns with your interests.

In the worst case scenario, you'll be out a little money and you'll probably learn something.

In the best case scenario, you'll be out a little money, you'll learn something that is useful and you might meet some more people.

I went through a period where I was fairly socially isolated and went down to the local university and took night classes in the Russian language. Didn't meet anyone, but I did learn some interesting things and it was a useful way to pass the time where I didn't feel so isolated.