hmm wanna reach out...

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So my room-mate has made friends with someone from my brothers circle of friends and acquaintances. But apparently this room-mate is going to be going out of state for like 6 months. And this girl she made friends with seems quite sad she's leaving since they both have a hard time making friends.

Anyways I get along with her to, so I am kind of wondering if I should reach out and suggest me and her hang out, since her 'friend' is leaving and then she may not have anyone to actually physically hang out with. So yeah I wonder if I should suggest me and her hang out sometimes. I just don't want to be weird but seems like she could use another friend if my room-mate leaves to physically visit...I know the two of them will talk on facebook and such but I know that is not the same as hanging out physically.

But yeah don't just want to seem like some weirdo replacement friend or something by suggesting that, but she is kind of a cool person to and I am honestly a bit disappointed at the prospect of not seeing her anymore after this room-mate leaves. But yeah should I, or would it be weird...?

Has this possible friend shown any interest in getting to know you as a person? Or at least, has she included you in small talk or other conversations?

If so, you could always say something like, "Hey, I've enjoyed hanging around you when you've come over to visit. We're both going to miss [room-mate's name] when she moves away. Frankly, I'd miss you if you were to stop coming here. Would you like to stay in touch? How about [coffee, a movie, insert other activity here] this [Thursday night, weekend, week, or next week, or in two weeks if it seems too sudden to get together right as your room-mate is moving] ... what [day/time] would be good for you?"

As for if it's weird or not, it's a case where you need to follow your heart/gut and decide whether it's worth speaking up about and taking a chance on. In the best case, you gain a new friend. If not, what have you got to lose?

Next time she tells your roommate she's going to miss her, jump in and casually say, "hey you can still come over and hang out sometime. We can do x thing." X being eat pizza or watch a movie or whatever you all enjoy.

If you want her as a friend then reach out and initiate.

If you got along with this person previously, why not get along with her in the future?

Just exchange email addresses, or "friend" each other on Facebook.

Pretty much reflecting Keigan's response.

I would reccomend NOT going into the logical discussion of why you two should hang out, which would be my first inclination.

Just ask her if she wants to go do something.