Not being able to have a mental filter on social media

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How do I make sure that I have a filter? I tend to post a lot of dumb stuff and earlier today a friend flat out told me that some of the stuff I post is very inappropriate. I have had this problem for years and it has led me to lose friends.

Would you realize it's dumb stuff if no one told you? Do you know why it is dumb stuff?

If the answer is yes, then just don't post these things immediately when you feel like it but force yourself to wait a little bit and reconsider if it's a good idea to post it.

I have to be told, sadly, that what I say in real life/post on social media is inappropriate. Truthfully speaking, I thought I was expressing myself concise and clearly but but it gets taken the wrong way by everyone. I only can answer yes to those 2 questions when folks point stuff out to me.

Some advice I found quite useful goes along these lines.

Before you say or post something think to yourself
1) Does this need to be said?
2) Does this need to be said by me?
3) Does this need to be said by me now?

I recently had a phase of intensely liking all sorts of nihilist and dark existentialist things on FB and sharing/liking too many of them (I only realised while looking back). It's pretty depressing stuff for some people but I was finding it... quite funny. Very funny actually, kind of like black humour.
Then I had this thought that some of my FB friends might be going through a rough patch in their lives, like literally crying their eyes out and drinking or something like that, and then they might see my horrible posts and... maybe even kill themselves because one of the photos will just tip them over the edge.

So I stopped, I just enjoy that stuff without liking it or sharing.

I've had this problem too. It's something you have to learn from other people, or maybe something online or in a book.

I don't think I'd ever say anything if I went by that advice.