So title is explanatory. I want to know if the situations I experience commonly are insults, or are ways people are trying to bond and befriend me, and why they're using these methods to do either.
So here's the situation: I say something, ANYTHING, and person X (Multiple people a day) begins to slam what I say. They say nasty things, often telling me to kill myself (which I'm not going to do because I don't recognize the use in doing something like that and the harm it would cause to people I know, and I also don't want to die) and telling me to shut the hell up or go blow up or something along these lines. I do and am fully capable of reacting and fighting back, but I find the least draining option to be avoiding confrontation and avoiding these people. However, I'm completely unable to do so.
Secondly, they single me out. It's like they LITERALLY do this to no one else. I'm confused because they are so friendly to everyone then become vehemently hostile to me, and they smile and do it sarcastically sometimes. It's irritating and upsetting. When I ask them why they are so hostile they are unable to give any reasonable answer and usually say things like "because I can" or "because you're so insultable". These aren't valid reasons to me and as much as I want to take action, I don't want to cause too much upheaval within my friend group because then I'd lose friends. I'm kind of lost here.
Though I'd like to lastly clarify that I'm mostly distressed because the insults have no reasoning. If I did something to deserve them then they'd make more sense. This is not me being narcissistic or arrogant when I say this, but when there's a reason for insulting me, and I've done something bad that I'm aware of, I will accept the insult because I feel I deserve it. In this case, as in many cases, I don't even talk to the person, they come out TO ME.
21 Apr 2017, 1:35 am
