Does this happen to anyone else with a friend/new friend?

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Two weeks ago I met this girl on a game and we got along well. She also added me on Skype. A few days later she came on again and we had fun again. She told me that we should Skype sometime. At this point I really liked her. I rarely get along with other people so I quickly start to really like people that I do get along with. Every day I was checking to see if she was on, and she finally came on yesterday. She is actually online on Skype almost all the time, but I am kind of nervous to talk to her on there. I tried talking to her on the game but she was just different this time. She took 5-10 minutes to reply every time and didn't say much. She actually came on multiple times and didn't talk to me like she usually does. I don't get why she acted so different this time. This actually happens with a lot of people that I meet, even with my current girlfriend when we only knew each other for a few weeks. It just doesn't make sense to me why people lose interest so quickly, and when we have been having nothing but fun previously.

So basically what I want to know is, does anyone else experience this where you are really excited to talk to someone but the next time you do, they don't seem interested at all and you end up feeling sad? I am really sad right now but hopeful that she will be interested again the next time she comes on.

Yep, happened to me twice, only in a bit of a different way. Here on WP too, in fact. I messaged back and forth with a couple of the members here (not going to name-drop, obviously), it lasts a week or so and suddenly all communication between me and them ceases. And as far as I know, I never said anything wrong either.

Some people, man.

I have been on both sides of the short-term-friendship deal, and I do not think it has to do with anyone actually doing anything wrong. I do believe I was being a bit thoughtless when suddenly leaving people behind as a passing acquaintance, but I also believe my own expectations had been too high when it seemed others had done that to me.

There could be other reasons as well; she may have other responsibilities and/or other people she wants to keep in contact with; and so, maintaining balance between doing this and that, and keeping in contact with ever so many people can be difficult; it takes considerable effort to maintain quality relationships.

I myself have been guilty of not responding as much to someone after a period of time, that isn't because I don't care about them, but between having to do this or that, plus maintaining contact with other people I have for awhile, and then having to respond to someone else I just recently met; it can be difficult to make the time to do so, and sometimes I over-extend myself and can no longer maintain contact as much with one friend or acquaintance in order to keep up contact with another, on top of other things I need to do.

Yes, I have had a similar problem with this new friend whom I have kind of made. As I have written in multiple posts on this forum, my new friend came on strong to me the first time that we met and even before we met in person. But I didn't mind and in fact I really liked him and the way that he acted toward me. However, after our first outing, he didn't continue to come on strong to me and I unfortunately came on strong to him, which he didn't like. And at least for now, I've scared him off. Sometimes, I'm not prepared for how people act if they act differently than I expected or hoped. It seems that my friend also had the same problem. But hopefully we can make up, even if it takes some effort and time.