Arrogant People

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How do you deal with arrogant people?

Why are they so nasty? Is it low self esteem? Why does someone who feels that they are absolutely right have to talk down to people and treat them like they're stupid?

I don't get it.

Just the other day someone suggested that I came off as presumptuous, pretentious and condescending. Would you say that is an accurate description? I have never had a good self image and definitely don't think I am better than others, though I do like to speak my mind and say what I believe to be true.

Arrogant people can think for themselves, but they can't think for you. If an arrogant person thinks you are a problem then that is the arrogant person's problem not your problem. Arrogant people can think that the entire world is flat for all we know, but I can believe the world is a diamond shape just as much as the world is a sphere.

Look, I believe people have a purpose and a loving soul that gives them life.

Don't let the negative people drown out your love of what is around you in the world.

I learnt this from Marisa Peer and it seems to work for most unpleasant people.

1. Smile slightly while they are speaking to you.
2. Say, "Thank you for sharing." Then change the subject.
2. If they are speaking down to you, suddenly say, "I'm sorry, I didn't quite hear what you said. Could you repeat that, please?" (This will work better if you try to look busy while they're speaking to you.) This technique puts off their mojo, and subtly lets them know you don't intend to listen to their BS. You can repeat this step as much as you like.
3. If they don't get the hint and continue to criticize, ask bluntly, "Are you trying to hurt my feelings?" (they will usually deny)
4. If they happen to say yes, say, "Well, that won't work."

If all fails, remember that arrogant people are often very insecure and wish them some dedicated self love.

Yep...Arrogant people are the scourge of the earth.

I deal with them on an individual basis. It depends on the "type" of arrogance.

I might be sarcastic, or I might try to accommodate.

But, eventually, the arrogant person will know that I'm hip to him/her.

I figure I am allowed an opinion, no matter how inferior, someone may perceive it. I have created my own biases like everyone else, so I try to keep an open mind, but I can't control how someone perceives me nor would I want to. I want to be liked, but I also want to speak my mind so I try to be respectful even if I fail at doing so in the way I communicate with others. I believe in treating others how I myself want to be treated and that means being honest to build trust and doing my best to be respectful which I likely fail at. If someone is too far from my own core beliefs, I keep communication with them to a minimum because we will never truly take each others ideology to heart since we are fairly incompatible. I don't like to argue for the sake of arguing because I end up with bitter feelings and would rather keep civility intact.

I let them know quickly that I'm hip to their game.

Is being intolerant of stupidity the same thing as arrogance?

Because maybe...you know...