19 Aug 2017, 7:52 am
19 Aug 2017, 8:43 am
19 Aug 2017, 9:19 am
Not only do I have ASD, but I also have depression & I have had history of anger issues, & I have some ocd tendencies. The best thing for me to do to be less depressed is to get out of house & not isolate so much. I have to remember keep in mind that Getting out of house socializing with positive people is really beneficial 
19 Aug 2017, 9:27 am
And most important you are not alone!
My passions in Life are computer technology & fitness health personal training. Hobbies interests, hmm let me think.. I like playing drums such as bongos, I go to the gym, I like to walk in park. I can't think of any other hobbies in my life
Well sometimes I do like to take pictures outside with my canon point & shoot camera. I like to tan outside when the weather is nice in New Jersey. That's all hobbies I can think of
19 Aug 2017, 9:37 am
Yes, true...
However, don't do something you do not enjoy or gives you lots of anxiety, make little steps and don't expect too much from yourself and others.
Finding a girlfriend / dating becomes a lot easier when you are more relaxed and confident about yourself.
[edit]I am sure you can meet other people who are interested in those hobbies, I am almost jealous I love computer technology as well but really, really don't like sports, lol...
24 Aug 2017, 1:01 pm
24 Aug 2017, 4:11 pm
24 Aug 2017, 5:32 pm
I attend a mental health program or I like to call it vocational school. Yes I see a therapist at the mental health program facility. ASD is not my only diagnosis or issue. Depression, History of anger issues, which I'm not proud of, & some ocd tendencies. I greatly appreciate the support here, thank you folks
25 Aug 2017, 2:52 am
25 Aug 2017, 8:51 pm
yeah well i am 34 and have no social life. did not have one at 22 either.
anyways a social life is overrated.
sure, socializing serves a function. but it ain't the more the merrier.
the previous counselor had the nerve to tell me that it was "good" that i took aikido lessons, b/c of the socializing.
it's like, wtf? 
gangs involve socializing. socializing is not inherently good or bad.
anyways i have not had precious lil "friends" for a long time. and when i did it was just superficial, one at a time. and not a two way street. they treated me condescendingly.
cost benefit analysis.
some precious lil "people" are just not worth the effort. but that is just my opinion.
whatever.
"life" goes on. with or without precious lil "friends".
when i first got to college. age 18, i thought i just urgently 
had 
to have friends. and i had to pick from a bunch of materialistic, judgmental, chatterbox, superficial Republicans.
former precious lil "friends" would not be quiet. they talked like 
stream of consciousness. 
then when i said something they half listened, misheard and misunderstood. and then had the nerve to grunt "huh" and "what" as if that was the etiquette equivalent of "excuse me".
they corrected me about things that did not matter. "BS" instead of "BA".
they asked questions that were none of their business "are you gay?". but he only asked b/c he was homophobic.
they cancelled plans two hours a priori.
they interrupted me when i talked.
Aspergers445
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Location: Winnersh, Berkshire
26 Aug 2017, 9:26 am
anyways a social life is overrated.
sure, socializing serves a function. but it ain't the more the merrier.
the previous counselor had the nerve to tell me that it was "good" that i took aikido lessons, b/c of the socializing.
it's like, wtf?
gangs involve socializing. socializing is not inherently good or bad.
anyways i have not had precious lil "friends" for a long time. and when i did it was just superficial, one at a time. and not a two way street. they treated me condescendingly.
cost benefit analysis.
some precious lil "people" are just not worth the effort. but that is just my opinion.
whatever.
"life" goes on. with or without precious lil "friends".
when i first got to college. age 18, i thought i just urgently
had to have friends. and i had to pick from a bunch of materialistic, judgmental, chatterbox, superficial Republicans.former precious lil "friends" would not be quiet. they talked like
stream of consciousness. then when i said something they half listened, misheard and misunderstood. and then had the nerve to grunt "huh" and "what" as if that was the etiquette equivalent of "excuse me".
they corrected me about things that did not matter. "BS" instead of "BA".
they asked questions that were none of their business "are you gay?". but he only asked b/c he was homophobic.
they cancelled plans two hours a priori.
they interrupted me when i talked.
I can definitely relate to this. Some girl at college once asked me if I was a virgin and I was like why do you want to know? Just mind your own business. She acted like she wanted to be my mate but she treated me in a very uncomfortable way so I shied away from going out with her and other girls in my college class. This resulted in my classmate ridiculing me for being so anti-social and accused me of being rude and disrespectful and not caring about other people's feelings.
I have had plans cancelled by my now ex-boyfriend and I could tell something was going on but did not have the courage to confront him.
I have been interrupted by hundreds of NTs. Even members of my family have done that. My stepdad has always been good at making my life miserable. He threatens me if things get on top of me. He interrupts me and doesn't allow me extra time to process. Eleven years he's been in my life and he still doesn't understand me one bit and he still doesn't want to know about Asperger's.
26 Aug 2017, 10:01 am
anyways a social life is overrated.
sure, socializing serves a function. but it ain't the more the merrier.
the previous counselor had the nerve to tell me that it was "good" that i took aikido lessons, b/c of the socializing.
it's like, wtf?
gangs involve socializing. socializing is not inherently good or bad.
anyways i have not had precious lil "friends" for a long time. and when i did it was just superficial, one at a time. and not a two way street. they treated me condescendingly.
cost benefit analysis.
some precious lil "people" are just not worth the effort. but that is just my opinion.
whatever.
"life" goes on. with or without precious lil "friends".
when i first got to college. age 18, i thought i just urgently
had to have friends. and i had to pick from a bunch of materialistic, judgmental, chatterbox, superficial Republicans.former precious lil "friends" would not be quiet. they talked like
stream of consciousness. then when i said something they half listened, misheard and misunderstood. and then had the nerve to grunt "huh" and "what" as if that was the etiquette equivalent of "excuse me".
they corrected me about things that did not matter. "BS" instead of "BA".
they asked questions that were none of their business "are you gay?". but he only asked b/c he was homophobic.
they cancelled plans two hours a priori.
they interrupted me when i talked.
I can definitely relate to this. Some girl at college once asked me if I was a virgin and I was like why do you want to know? Just mind your own business. She acted like she wanted to be my mate but she treated me in a very uncomfortable way so I shied away from going out with her and other girls in my college class. This resulted in my classmate ridiculing me for being so anti-social and accused me of being rude and disrespectful and not caring about other people's feelings.
I have had plans cancelled by my now ex-boyfriend and I could tell something was going on but did not have the courage to confront him.
I have been interrupted by hundreds of NTs. Even members of my family have done that. My stepdad has always been good at making my life miserable. He threatens me if things get on top of me. He interrupts me and doesn't allow me extra time to process. Eleven years he's been in my life and he still doesn't understand me one bit and he still doesn't want to know about Asperger's.
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Sometimes the speaker asks questions that he or she thinks is just showing a polite interest, but the answer is none of the speakers business.
In her defense, maybe she had good intentions
If there is no law that says you have to interact with her and no functional reason, then you can choose not to interact with her
31 Aug 2017, 12:17 pm
Damn, if I didn't know better I'd think I wrote that, it's basically a 100% accurate description of myself as well. Thanks for sharing
Makes me feel a bit better knowing that there's someone else out there that is more or less experiencing the exact same problems as me.
31 Aug 2017, 2:14 pm
Damn, if I didn't know better I'd think I wrote that, it's basically a 100% accurate description of myself as well. Thanks for sharing
Makes me feel a bit better knowing that there's someone else out there that is more or less experiencing the exact same problems as me._____________________
The OP description sounds similar to me
And that makes me feel a little better
But the OP and the responder live in different states and countries than me.
With the exception of Internet, we can't communicate that much.
However, even over the internet, I feel confident that sooner or later I will write something socially awkward, as a result of autism
And then you will not wanna interact with me anymore
03 Sep 2017, 9:38 am
It's so amazing that so many people can relate to my issues in my life Doesn't make me feel so alone
12 Sep 2017, 3:40 pm
Doesn't make me feel so alone It helps me a lot as well, knowing that I am not the only one with these problems. Sometimes it feels very loonly when no one seems to understand how difficult some situations are for me. Talking to other people on the spectrum and hearing how they think about and solve problems is really helpfull.
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