"Oooh! You're so cute!" Ugh.

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So I have had this trend for quite some time now and I still haven't found a way to deal with it. For some reason older women really seem to like me. They stare at me for the longest space of times and I squirm and they smile. I even had one woman just stare and stare and smile and just say "Oh you're so cute!" I hate that word! But still they just think I am the littlest sweetest cutest thing around and it makes me so uncomfortable. One woman even liked to pet me, no joke. She said my hair was so soft she had to touch it. And I don't know just women who are older than me in general. I am 19 but I have had people like 25 get all gushy around me. I don't know what it is. They always say hi to me all the way from across the room and, ugh, touch me if I don't notice them they touch my back just to say hi and walk away.

Do they think that I am quiet and shy just waiting for an older mentor to come and build up my self esteem and confidence so that I become a strong independent woman of this new century or do they just want to pet me? I really empathize the kid in the pink bunny suit in a Christmas Story. Really I do. Does this happen to anyone else? Older men like me to but that is a much more disturbing tale.

I apparently have one of those faces that make people want to talk to me, so I know how you feel.

Maybe its your appearance? Do you have a picture to post? Put one up and see what older women on the forum say.

Wow. Creepy.

Are you cute attractive?

Do you think yourself cute or attractive?

Omgosh this would always happen to me. All through high school, people would pat me on the head, or pat my butt like I'm 2 years old and goes aww your so cute, or baby talk to me like I'm a toddler or something. It still sometimes happens, but not as much. I use to hate it, the reason they would do that to me, was because I'm soo tiny, and I looked so young, and it just stunk. I remember one time I was in high school, I was walking down the hallway and one of the girls my age, whom I was older then walked over and pat me on the head then said in like a talking down to little kid voice, are u lost again munchkin, then one of the guys whom once again was my age would run over and pick me up and carry me and say you ready to do airplane ahh, it drove me nuts. And old people were even worse, they would pinch my cheeks, try to put me on their laps, it was so gross.

I'm kind of the opposite. I'm not always easy on the eyes, so to speak. In fact, sometimes I wish girls would do that to me (I'm a man). Still, one could only dream. Plus, when it happens, I get quite nervous.

It could worse, you could have my face for instance ....

I believe you look at them at a way that permeits/suggests all this

When you said older, i thought originally that you meant in the range of 65+ year old women. I felt creeped out just reading those first lines. Then you said 25, and I don't know what to make of that at all...

Yeah, maybe it is because I am relatively small. For the longest I really didn't notice all that much that I was short until people start to make a point of it thinking that it was cute. But a good side is that when I forget someone's name and I need their help to get something high I just call them tall person, and they laugh no knowing I forgot their name.

I hope not, but that maybe the case. I don't know how to make a cute face or what one on me would look like, but I don't really know what my face looks like when I am talking to people. I try to smile, like when they make a joke even though I don't get it. I try to reciprocate smiles, I have done it since I was a baby in fact. So that might be it. But I still don't like all of the attention, but if I stop smiling they might give me more since they might think I am sad and such.

But I think I look alright, I guess I am attractive and or cute. I have been described as such. But when my boyfriend first described me as beautiful on the phone to someone else when I was sitting next to him, I thought he was kidding, but he didn't laugh so I was confused. But it is definately not how I dress, my mom says I dress like a hobo and that I should be ashamed. Haha. My coat is way over sized, I my legs look like those of a mascot with those huge bodies but relatively tiny legs, but then on top is a relatively small head compared to the torso part. And I wash my clothes like once every two months.

But I guess I don't like the thought that I am attractive because I hate getting hit on because I pretty much panic and run away. I just don't like that thought just how I look will compel people to come up to me because it makes me wonder what they want from me ultimately and trying to figure out what they want with all of my mom's horror rape murder stories, it really scares me.

But for the women, I just am uncomfortable with reciprocating their friendliness and enthusiasm.

But as for the photo, I don't know how to post one since I don't have pictures of myself online.

Once I knew a 20 yo girl that said she atracted old people. In fact, she liked to "take care" of them and children, so, both children and old peole liked her.

I believe this is nor a bless nor a doom, but only an answer to our actions.

After having several people in my telemarketing office go on and on about how "cute" i was...me not knowing how to respond accidentally sorta shouted out kinda loudly "If I am not cute, I am Nothing!!"

i dunnow..it was a weird moment....everybody turned and stared at me......yep...

I get called cute alot.
cause I am sorta funny and childlike and have a funny voice.

it could be worse.

I hate being seen as 'cute'. I don't even use that word.
I guess it's because I try to build a tough image of myself.

Some girls think i'm cute because of my personality.
Is that good or bad? (in the long run)

I don't like it when my friends call me ''cute'' either ; it makes me feel like all there is to me is a short, lovable creature chihuahua. I'm not a person with problems. Instead, I turn into a yappy little chihuahua.

This is what i call a high-quality problem.
Walking away is not the correct response. Do you see why ?

Well I think it depends on the kind of 'cute'. I think there are different types, like when a girl points to a guy and says that he is cute is a different kind of cute when they point to a rabbit and say its cute. I think my cute is used in the same connotation as the rabbit. I think they might mean a sweet nature kind of cute when they are talking about personality. So I think that is probably good in the long run I guess.

Oh and Kosmonaut, when I said they touch my back and say hi and walk away. I didn't mean that I walked away but they did. Like they come up from behind they touch my back say hi softly and then they walk away. And I am just standing there wondering "why in the hell did they just touch me? and why did they feel they needed to go out their way to say hi to me?" You know? It really throws me off, and then they expect me to do the same to them or something. Really makes me confused.