Social Skills Help vs. Social Interaction

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I think the only true way to learn social skills is to actually interact. What do you think?

I think coaching is helpful, say from an NT spouse who knows exactly what sort of social clues you missed. As well as the NT context of the social situation.

Actual, real-life experience is essential. Kiki is right.

It's like the difference between playing a driving video game and actually driving on the road.

Kraftie Kortie

When adequately simulated, a driving video game could be, in some ways, good practice for driving

But sooner or later you need to drive on the road

There are limits to simulations, games, and training

Actually I used to imagine what it would be like to simulations social interactions

But in real life, sooner or later, someone has the nerve to tell me I did or said something bad or wrong

And they respond by, saying and doing things, that might appear grotesquely disproportionate




The best case scenario is that both parties go holding hands skipping off into the sunset

The worst case scenario is subject to the other parties' imagination

Besides, what about when someone else say or does something I find bad or wrong

The problem with Aspies is they often don't know the rules of the road. You aren't going to get very far if you insist on driving on the wrong side of the road in many American cities. Learning what is socially acceptable to say and not say before opening your mouth will help you go a lot farther.

NTs get hints via body language when they are veering off where they shouldn't. Aspies don't get these clues and blindly go where they shouldn't.

What is socially acceptable is constantly changing. It doesn't matter as much to NTs who get social clues and can adapt instantly.