Board index › Coping in life › Social Skills and Making Friends

Shutdowns whilst with others - need advice

Page 1 of 1 [ 3 posts ] 

Previous topic | Next topic

Dataunit
Snowy Owl
Snowy Owl

User avatar

Joined: 1 Jul 2016
Gender: Male
Posts: 152

25 Nov 2017, 4:04 am

I'm 27 and I've never had a meltdown, but I've had shutdowns throughout my life. These tend to happen when I've been with other people for several hours, or in loud/crowded spaces. I would describe my shutdowns as an inescapable feeling of needing to be alone, or at least have people not trying to engage me in conversation. Embarrassingly, they sometimes happen when I'm in a restaurant with family members. People tend to get upset at me (and a bit angry) when they happen, even though they have other people they could talk to instead. It's as if they think I'm purposely snubbing them.

Does anyone have any tips for what I could do?


_________________
Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able? Then he is not omnipotent. Is he able, but not willing? Then he is malevolent. Is he both able and willing? Then whence cometh evil? Is he neither able nor willing? Then why call him God?
- Epicurus


nick007
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 4 May 2010
Gender: Male
Posts: 27,631
Location: was Louisiana but now Vermont in capitalistic military dictatorship called USA

27 Nov 2017, 2:21 am

Do you think they could be anxiety or stress related :?:


_________________
"I don't have an anger problem, I have an idiot problem!"
~King Of The Hill


"Hear all, trust nothing"
~Ferengi Rule Of Acquisition #190
https://memory-alpha.fandom.com/wiki/Ru ... cquisition


Dataunit
Snowy Owl
Snowy Owl

User avatar

Joined: 1 Jul 2016
Gender: Male
Posts: 152

11 Dec 2017, 2:21 pm

nick007 wrote:
Do you think they could be anxiety or stress related :?:


I don't know. Probably more sensory-related. They usually happen when I've been around others for hours without a break. It's as though my brain doesn't have the capacity for more socialising and quits trying.


_________________
Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able? Then he is not omnipotent. Is he able, but not willing? Then he is malevolent. Is he both able and willing? Then whence cometh evil? Is he neither able nor willing? Then why call him God?
- Epicurus