Not Interested in Guessing Games

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Who is tired of friends making you play guessing games?

I find them annoying too

That's when I withdraw from a friendship.

I don't have time for that crap either. People need to be honest with me and not play with my mind.

And forget friends on the job.

I hate them too. Recently, I snapped at my grandmother because she was trying to make to guess something. I said "either you tell me the answer or you don't, but I'm not going keep guessing".

I don't mind them when I know the answer thou like if I know the person involved well & it's typical situation/habit/routine ect for them that they want me to guess.

Guessing games means having to always guess what a person means. Just be straight with me.....like Elaine says

Like they are actually telling you to guess what their thinking or they are being vague and weird and you can’t tell what’s going on? I don’t have this problem luckily with my friends but if I ever did, I would just tell them to be straight with me and stop f*****g around

When people start dropping guessing games with me and especially when they soothe you brush offs like:

"I am sorry but I have been busy taking care of my family and I have a full-time job" I will call you in a few days, I don't waste my time and I tell them, "I understand that but if you are going to lie to me please do not proceed to contact me further." This especially true when they make time for everyone else and you see it all over their social media.

In the past, I do not let people play guessing games with me because I just have had no patience for that kind of behavior and I have had my history of calling them out for their behavior.

As I said in a previous post about a childhood friend who appeared to re-connect with me but:
A. Ignored me the entire time I slept over but remaining on the phone after two and a half years along with having a boy over.
B. I was always the one calling over there only to get the runaround. "Can you call me back in the next 15 minutes? I have to wash the dishes?"
C. She promised to sleep over and bailed by postponing twice and then refused to talk to me when I called to confirm the third time and supposedly took off with her boyfriend.
D. She didn't want me at her 16th birthday party because she was popular and didn't want me there because I was different. It was "You aren't going to like what I do."

18-year-old me was very immature back then and would prank people via phone call who I was mad at. Several times I called her and pranked her by:
A. Holding down the mute button and letting them get frustrated
B. Said random things on their answering machine

I also called her up and yelled her via voicemail and told her it was a shame that she could not invite me to her birthday party and that she was being a bad friend. She also came to my HS graduation and got me a second gift but forgot it and promised to bring it when she slept over that she bailed out of. I demanded that she sent it in the mail or I will buy it myself before hanging up.

The guessing game sucka. Mainly it appears that you care more about the relationship than they do. I guess only when I am afraid to lose the relationship. At that time maybe it is time to move. If it happens it happens

It's a freaking power play on their part.

I don't mind guessing, people get upset at some of my answers though

These guessing games are unwritten social rules of relationships that we are dealing with.
Some examples
1. Passive aggressive behavior: Which is what those guessing games are by letting you know they aren't interested or they are bothered by something that we do. Yet they don't want to tell us because we live in a society where we are taught not to "Offend someone" or "Hurt their feelings. So we lie to cover things up
2. People are allowed to say things that feel good but don't mean what they say- "I want to get coffee next week here is my number." So you make the plans and when the day comes they bail on you. "Oh man my husband and I planned a date and we don't get to go out anymore due to having a new baby. I'll make it up to you, I'm sorry."

In terms of us being more excited than they are, we have trouble making friends so connecting with someone is like that precious treasure. Maybe we could be coming off as more clingy to them that we realize we are in addition to atypical behaviors that we are not aware of.