How to destinguish bad friends from good friends?

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I think I need to let some of the people I consider friends go. It's not that they're bad people but they're just not right for me, like bad for me. It's just that I don't want to let them go. How can you tell that someone's bad for you?

hello,
i have a similar situation. there are people from school that i havent seen in a while. thinking about it and looking back they were not really my friends then, so, now i do not want to be friends with them. there was a guy named james that i used to go to school with, from the age of about five to 16. then after finishing school/college i saw him again, a few years later. i spoke to him and he told me all these things that he said he had done. he was a chef and owned a flat that he was renting out and owned a place in canada and was looking at starting a resturaunt there. he told me many lies like this. i found out by speaking to his dad and his dad seemed very surprised by it all. i felt like a fool. i didnt like this and decided to blank him, and his dad. i dont want people thinking they can talk to me like this and i do nothing about it. there was another guy at school who used to slag off his friends behind their backs. now i see him and he asks if i want to go to the pub for a drink. i make my excuses and leave. these people are no good for you. i know some people will say that things change. to me, people dont change. they are competitive, with a lot of things. people ask me " what are you doing now?" i say i am a qualified electrician and i work on eastenders in the lighting department earning £19 per hour. they dont seem to like this much. they always seem to look down on me and talk to me like i am dirt. they bring up things from my past. humiliating things and nasty things. because they dont change. i have changed a lot. people will try to hold you to what they want you to be. you must move on and grow. learn as much as you can and become independant. dont throw all your friends and be lonely. but dont wait for others to join you. i want to go skydiving. i think that if i waited for others to join me, it would never happen. if they are bad for you and it seems like they are, then leave them today, now. replace the time you would spend with them with a hobby, something productive.
all the best
simon

Ninja, you seem really cool. Find some new mates that will appreciate you as you are.