I Have Many Acquaintances But No Meaningful Relationships

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We all should consider what an acquaintance is. Longevity of knowing someone does not automatically bump you into friendship category.

I volunteer over the summer at my church's thrift store....mainly because my youngest is doing that to gain practical experience. Anyway that's a few hours of people I attend church with that NEVER talk me usually but now that we're in this confined space in back pricing merchandise, it's a tad awkward. I met one new person I click with but proceed with caution.

No I don't bore people with monologues on my special interests. Any minor attempts at banter weren't well received so I cut that out as well. You have to have the right timing to pull that off. You also have to be able to read people. Fail for me.

The thing I'm curious about is whether you actually seek friendships or not. In all fairness, judging by the tone of your post, I'd assume you do. But don't force friendships if it doesn't look like one is forming. The way I see it, the best friendships form naturally.

Oh for Pete's Sake.....no I don't force friendships.I may be autistic but I do know friendships form naturally and that acquaintances are people that you merely exchange greetings and a couple obligatory pleasantries with.

I never get beyond the acquaintance stage either. The only good friends I ever had moved away years ago.

I am awkward as can be at conversing with people unless I really click with them and that is rare.

Banter starts with the same letter as bulls$$!....coincidence?

So does "barter"

Some friendships are based on barter....."I scratch your back, you scratch mine."

I don't really have an intimate "friend" with whom I could exchange all confidences at all hours of the day.

I had some barter friendships. As long as both parties are ok with it....no harm. Just don't expect anything personal from it. These were work associates.

Some barter friendships are one sided. I will help the person when they need something, but when I need help, they are nowhere to be found.

Than it's time to say buh bye

Yep

Adult friendships aren't any easier than high school ones.

Some people carry their highschool mindsets well into adulthood.

I made friends with women who were involved in my children's school, and they were the closest, most genuine female relationships I've ever had. That was when I was about 45.

Now I've moved, and I'm back to no friends. Lots and lots of acquaintances though.