Running Errands For the In Crowd

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This woman who seems to understand the popular crowd at church has little use for either of us had no problem running up when they need an errand done. Than they reject her and we're friends for a bit until the cycle repeats itself.

I would delete that chick's number if I were you. She sounds two faced and fake.

It's actually normal behavior for people to do this......sad but true.

I can ignore her texts......

It sucks. You deserve so much better than these nasty people that only come around when the popular people reject them.

She's nothing more than a water girl for them......

I feel sorry for her honestly because she wants to win them over but can't seem to learn that these people don't like her. Have you thought of sitting her down after they reject her to let her know that these people aren't her friends to begin with? It sounds like she could use some assertive training and could learn to say,"No."

It sounds like these "Popular" people who are using her are leading her around when they don't like her to begin with and that is very mean.

Yes, I tried that and got nowhere. I'm done.

Then it sounds like you did everything you could to support her and she wasn't reciprocating and being a good friend. That sounds like someone to avoid altogether because it's not what you want to do.

Right as I had been doing this dance for nearly three years......

If she reaches out to you again know it's okay to put your foot down. "I am sorry they keep taking advantage of you but I really feel that you have been taking advantage of me as well. It seems to come whenever your so-called "Friends desert you. If they need you, then you ignore me and I am getting tired of it and feel like you have only seeme to use me. I am not a doormat."

I've actually said that to someone else who did this to me awhile back.

Various people still do this to me in different degrees.

I'm done being a landing spot for people when their in crowd friends are busy.......

They probably do it because they see you as the "Nice Person" so they use that as a way of taking advantage of you so the can get away with murder. It sounds like setting some firm boundaries and also talking to the pastor and other elders about this in terms of how to assert yourself and say no to these "Low-quality people."

I recently had to do the same thing with two brokers who I had written about recently...


Once upon a time, I worked for 2 brokers who did nothing but make and break promises to me and lead me around. Really, they only wanted someone to make calls so they could make money.
1. Not once did I ever get a dime from either one
2. They told me one day 1 that I really didn't work there until I got an official paycheck
3. They made it sound like would pay for me to go to real estate school but what they really meant that I would pay for it myself and they would reimburse me once I passed. If I did, they were only paying for me to get licensed.

Recently, one of the two brokers called me offered another position in staying I could take that position as well as my first job in stating he would pay me $12.00/hr no taxes. When it boiled right down to it, they led me around about starting by postponing twice and not communicating with me. So I decided not to take that position because I could not trust them and wrote them a letter of rejection in which they ignored. So when it got closer to the second supposed start period, I decided to confront them because I was fed up with their crap.

Were they happy with me? No, because they learned that I am not always going to be so nice to the point that I let others walk all over me. In fact, I got nasty backlash that where they still meant to keep their word to hire me but that I wrote a bad email that they didn't need to see. I wrote back one more time and told them that no unreliability and a lack of communication is something that a potential employee does not need to see.


Sometimes you can't always be so nice to people or you get jerked around like in this situation.