Third wheel twice between a girl and a guy

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I became the third wheel for the whole weekend. I tried to make myself social and outgoing but I ended up burning out.

I attended the Meet Up group that I am a part of's Monthly Meet and Eat on Saturday. Most of the people left after that but one of the female members wanted to go drinking and was asking people if they wanted to go. Besides another guy, I decided to go because I didn't get to talk much during the Meet and Eat and the girl said I didn't have to drink. The place was a small bar in the neighboring city and in the town square.
I sat with the other two but they dominated most of the conversations since they had similar life experiences and have done more things than I have so I felt unable to interject most of the time. The girl also got drunk and wanted us to walk around with her by the creek. During the whole time, she leaned her head on the other guy and held his hand as they walked but ignored me for the most part. She did run up and hugged us both during the three times she had to go to the bathroom but still didn't give me the same physical affection she did for the other guy. It reminded me of my abysmal high school days when the girls I liked would be affectionate to other guys but wouldn't do the same for me. The guy ended up driving the girl back to her apartment while I went home.

The next day (yesterday), one of the group leaders hosted a swim party at the pool in an apartment complex. The girl from last night actually asked me if I wanted to go and I decided to go since I hadn't done much swimming for the summer as well as the fact I still felt like I hadn't done much socialization even though my social energy was being taxed by how much of a headache it was being. For a while, it was just myself and three of the group's female members, including the drunk girl. Another guy and the guy from last night showed up after a while. Just like thr previous night, the drunk girl wanted to continue hanging out after the event was over, only this time at a restaurant but just like the night before, I yet again became the third wheel between her and the other guy. However, I decided to leave after my meal instead of subjecting myself to further mental stress and I needed to nurture my introversion.

You need to find better peeps. NTs with manners would never do that to you.

Get yourself a fourth wheel, then.....

Seriously he needs to move on.....

I've had the third wheel feeling with triad friendships. I move on as it's a waste of my time.

Can't NTs multitask?

Or go find a hot girl and take her with you....perhaps a member of the Double D club and watch this other chic squirm. She'll want you but too bad.

Got this idea from a website. Man if you can get one of your hot platonic fem friends to help you out....may be a d#ck move but will put you on the map.

I unfortunately don't have any platonic female friends, atleast not my age and in person.

Darn as that would have been fun.

I have been a third wheel too. I don't bother with those types of friendships anymore.

You would think they would considering NTs are obsessed with multitasking.

Most of the "hot girls" in my area have boyfriends and their boyfriends tend to not let them have male friends. This is something that has loaded the dice against me in making female friends. Most of the women in my area also care only about shopping sales at Macy's, reading sappy romance novels as well as watching sappy TV shows, and listening to Katy Perry.