Why do some people do this?

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I knew this young couple who loved each other. On Facebook the guy would post lovely pictures of him and his girlfriend, and put lovely messages like "I love this girl so much, she is my world". Then they had a baby, and the guy absolutely adored his daughter. He posted pictures on Facebook of him with his girlfriend and baby, with messages like "these two are the most perfect thing that ever happened to me, I love them both to the moon and back, they are amazing and I will love them forever and ever", and the girlfriend would comment "I love you more babe" and "our princess is lucky to have a doting father". And he was a doting father.

Then one day he just upped and left his girlfriend and baby (probably a mere 4 weeks after he wrote the last love message on Facebook). His status went to single, and when his baby was in hospital due to an illness, he didn't even bother to come and see her or anything. The girlfriend was hurt but she didn't dwell on it too much because she felt her baby was more important than her ex, but even so...

Why do a lot of young couples these days absolutely adore each other one day, then the next day they've broken up? It's even worse when there are children involved. It seems to be the norm these days.

A similar thing happened to my cousin. Her partner left after about 6 months after they had a kid and he claimed that the child was preventing him from being himself and having fun with his friends. I guess it's an immaturity but I don't really get it. He's had no contact with his son for nearly 2 years now and hasn't made any attempts to have any contact. I just don't really understand why you wouldn't feel an attachment that was over riding anything else.

I don't understand it either, and therefore I don't have an answer unfortunately. Me, if I were to ever announce publicly that a girl is "my world", it is set in stone.

Same here but my theory is that maybe the guy is suffering from some kind of mental disorder, problems at work or a sudden problem in the realtionship & the guy just snapped/had a midlife crises.

The guy is only 20.

I'm way over 20, but I was never like this, reason being is because I always had trouble forming bonds with people (despite that I really would like to).

People tend to end their relationships when they stop being fun. Many people think that relationships and marriages are supposed to be fun and exciting all the time. People don't want to work through the lows in the relationship or marriage. They hit one little snag such as a new baby or a job loss and they break up or get divorced because they can't handle it. People are also too quick to jump into bed with each other before getting to know each other. People end up in a crappy relationship with someone they don't really love because they just couldn't wait on having sex. It's terrible to watch children suffer because of their parents' irresponsible decisions. I wish people would think about how their approaches to relationships will affect their potential future children.

Many people, particularly the under 25 demographic, simply don't know what they really want at that point. Relationships are fun but many people rush into them without thinking of the implications of kids, marriage etc... So they go through the scripted motions of a relationship until the honeymoon phase dies or something causes tension and the first reaction is to jump ship.

People's feelings change, sometimes radically, and they can't predict that.

Some people do things (including gushing over other people) primarily to show off.

some people are young and dumb. I feel sorry for his ex, who deserved far better.

For the guys....the sex is not interesting anymore they bail. For the ladies, they want the high life some of them and find a bloke who can make it happen.

Elaine has her head on straight at 25..but many out there don't gaf about the consequences their actions cause for others.

The guy sounds like a sociopath. He never loved her. He doesn't have the slightest idea of what love really is.

sociopathic types generally lack the love genes, they are commonly replaced by the cold prickly genes.

I think this is a big part of it - posing. Showing off. Pretending at "happy family" to see how it feels. Bragging.

I think it's nauseating, so I don't look at that kind of stuff. I had enough of it in high school. As for leaving a kid...lots of men do it. They don't want their lifestyle to change. It's much rarer for women to do it, but I know of one who did when her kid was 4-5. She wanted to be free and relive her youth apparently even though her husband was highly educated and hot and the kid was adorable and well behaved.

An aside given topic and court retirement today: pregnancy is dangerous. the likelihood of being killed by a partner goes up as does death from pregnancy complication https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/05/06/mothers-risk-of-dying-during-pregnancy-increases_n_5274406.html, They have risen to the levels seen in Iran or Romania. So safety-wise, there is absolutely no contest between which state is safer for a woman - being not pregnant is safer.

Insecure people show off......

Fake people like this make me laugh. Why post comments like that online? They are just putting on a show for everyone. It's so incredibly fake. Sad when you think about it.