Small group leader gives me short awkward hugs

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Why would someone only give me a handshake during greeting time at church while hugging this other person next to them, then at the end of service when I go to hug them seem like they don't want to hug me because it's so short and barely touching my shoulders unlike the other person they did it with and people I've seen them do it with in the past (I have asked in the past to hug them and they said yes and hugged me like short and barely touching me) but hug these other people with real hugs

When someone does that to me, I take it to mean that they don't like me and they don't want me around. At my church, we have the sign of peace and nobody ever really wants to get exchange it with me. The handshakes are awkward and I get dirty looks from people. I think you need to just walk away from that group and move on.

Oh yeah!! !! !! Could they be anymore obvious? Oops, I forgot. They have a monopoly on God.

Are there any other small group leaders that you know about who do value you? If so, maybe talk to them about joining their small group instead. If not, maybe do some research and find a group where you are going to be valued. It just sounds like this leader isn't a good fit for you. It sounds like you did everything to reach out and she's still not receiving so move on because she's not going to change her mind about you anytime soon. Also, maybe connecting with some of the other people in that small group who you do feel a connection with and leave that woman behind because it's also obvious you don't click.