I see more insecure women with agendas

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Hi:
Everywhere I go, I keep noticing women who are
1. Very insecure and clingy to their significant others and rub it in your face that they have someone and you don't
2. They seem to enjoy undermining other women and especially if there is something off about you
3. The walk around acting like they are more important
4. They are condescending
5. They tend to keep their eye on other women and whisper right in front of you

Just ignore......they aren't worth your time

How do I ignore them because people like this really bother me and even push their buttons.

I know they are hard to ignore as they are everywhere. Women get extremely overprotective of their men. I pretty much avoid interacting with men that have girlfriends or wives because the wives and girlfriends think I will steal their men. Women love to pick at each other and they love to pick at women they think are lower in the social ladder than they are. I just remind myself that these people will have to answer to God for their crap eventually.

I ran into someone like that on Tues night at a cat's cafe where I like to go because the owner is super cool and I happened to be enjoying myself when this couple who came in. Of course the girl in the group seemed to size me up because I knew a lot of information on the cats. She asked, "Do you work here?" I said, "No I come in all the time and even got a cat here," and I proceeded to show her the cute and she was polite but fake. "Cute." So I tried me best to avoid her because she was giving off some vibes that made the atmosphere negative. She was also snuggling with her boyfriend and acting like they were really in love. She also happened to keep eying me and whispering things to him along with avoiding me.

I got annoyed just enough that I pretended to sneeze twice but really called her names. The first time I called her a "Slut" and the second time I called her the B word. Both times she turned around with a little smile on her face but she left me alone. As for me, I left the room for a while until they were gone and found other people to talk to.

It starts in (junior) high school, where girls are brainwashed into thinking that the only way they can be "somebody" is to have a boyfriend -- the handsomer, the wealthier, the more athletic, and the more popular the boyfriend, the better.

This is why (many) otherwise mature women still seek out men of wealth and status (who act like jerks) over men who are working-class nobodies (and who would love those women dearly). That's the Way of the World.

There was a guy on the spectrum who I chased for a while who wasn't rich but very good looking and intelligent and he was very superficial and conceited while he was a complete basket case. He would only date women who were an ultra or high geek like him with a big brain. He led me around and played with with women where we had to impress him and none of us never lived up to his standards.

Sometimes the vibes people put off are enough to make me not want to be around them. Sometimes I feel like crap after dealing with certain people.

My aunt is one of those people. She left her first husband for a lawyer. Her first husband is a much nicer person and a better uncle.

What a jerk.

I feel like the way she acted was so toxic that it was poisoning the room to the point that I could hardly breathe. Believe me, other people left the room when this couple was in the cat cafe so I am pretty sure others took notice of her too.

The wife of a man I grew up with left him for a wealthier man in the securities business. The first man is a kind, gentle, polite, and honest construction worker -- his second wife and he have three well-behaved and intelligent children, all of whom went to uni on full-ride scholarships. The second man is a real jerk who openly dates women half his age. The wife stays with him for the money. They have no kids.

Money seems to be both a very effective deodorant and a powerful aphrodisiac.

Though I don't want to badmouth my ex-friend because:
1. I am bitter towards her for rejecting me
2. I brought just as much baggage in that relationship as she did

However, the man she is married to doesn't make a lot of money due to having a brain surgery and was limited to what he can do occupation-wise. However, his parents are very well off and because of it, they have been able to gain some nice things. Yet, their noses were pretty high when she dumped me. She also started being mean by seeming to put on heirs around me by talking to me with an attitude. Whenever I would correct her she would make excuses for her behavior. "I am just trying to work on being more assertive."


Like the woman in the cat cafe, she was another one who had quite the agenda of her own where she would make me envious of her on purpose because she had a significant other and I didn't and had just been let down by the aspie who I talked about above. I called her out on it many times and though she apologized, she didn't stop. She also found other ways to make me envious of her too.

... 0.o

Summer: you have a pretty good theory of mind, though you do not truly know what is going on in her head. The majority id still in your own mind. Do you feel that she was that insecure about you to think you were going to steal her man? She talk to you, though you are probably correct that dhe thought you worked there and was only humoring her. I had a situation where I went to one of daughters classmates birthday parties and ended up sneering at me, when I told him about the ability to buy a house he sneered 'good for you', probably because he could not get one himself and I telling him my good fortune made it obvious of his lack of it. But it f****d up my whole experience at that party. And was thinking about it days later. When I should have brushed it off. Your story feels like that.

Buying a house is not that big of a deal....it's almost expected of you unless you live in an outrageously expensive area.....did the topic come up organically or was it forced?

When I lived in an apartment complex....nearly everyone there had a story as to why they didn't belong there....lol I always laughed and said, "well here we are"....hahaha. I listened as each one said they were getting a house. When the time came for me to house shop, I kept quiet. After we were approved for a loan....I simply packed up....I paid the neighbor kids to help us. I also said we were going to rent. I'm not a showy person.

Not trying to throw shade on you Brick but were your motives pure?