"I get back to you later" - WHEN?

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So this is something I found hard when it comes to friendships.
The difficulties to read between the lines in communication.
For me, if someone ask me if I want to meet them I answer yes or no as soon as I can.
If it´s tricky that day I explain "we are going to this and this place first so it could take some time and maybe there are no time left to meet up" so the person will know right ahead.

But other people are not saying no or with explainations, instead they are pushing things forward or answer very vague with "I talk to you later", "I get back to you", "we´ll see about that", and leave it for days or in best case in hours.
But the tricky part is that this are the same persons that have invited me to their homes and have done that for years. So it´s not strictly uninterested in getting together and they often meet me but on their terms (in the heat of the moment).

I want to give something in return for all dinnerparties I´ve been to but it´s not easy when I get this vague answers back. If I say "I can buy some food to us and we can eat it in the park" the person answer back with "we can meet up somewhere later" with no explainations why they don´t want to meet in a park or eat there, they just leave it that.

If I invite someone into my home the person can answer that the getting stressed with setting a date so I have not time to prepare and that leading me to not wanting to invite at all.

Why people do this vague-answering-thing?

Often because saying No in the NT world is awkward.

Maybe in some cases it's because they're not sure of when they'll be able to do it & then they forget or get distracted by other stuff.