Do they hate me?

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18 Aug 2018, 9:14 pm

Earlier i went too the gas station too get a ciggerate. My associates said they would wait for me. (it was only a 5 minute walk away from the bar we went too)

When i returned from the gas station they disaopeared.

Do you think they dislike me?

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18 Aug 2018, 9:25 pm

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Well, they certainly don't want to include you. Put some distance between yourself and them. I amn't saying ignore them, but add some extra conditions in your friendship with them. If they then want to continue being friendly with you, enjoy.

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18 Aug 2018, 9:41 pm

Some of them were under the influence of alcohol at the time and at a guess i think they were doing drugs earlier that night.

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18 Aug 2018, 9:49 pm

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Some of them were under the influence of alcohol at the time and at a guess i think they were doing drugs earlier that night.

More reason to put some space between you and them. Otherwise, it won't end well. Just vanish, and claim to be "busy." Wish them well, and leave it at that. They will move on with their own pursuits.

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18 Aug 2018, 10:07 pm

AspieUtah wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

Some of them were under the influence of alcohol at the time and at a guess i think they were doing drugs earlier that night.

More reason to put some space between you and them. Otherwise, it won't end well. Just vanish, and claim to be "busy." Wish them well, and leave it at that. They will move on with their own pursuits.

My mom did say that they might exclude me from certain events because might involve drugs (i dont do drugs)

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18 Aug 2018, 10:15 pm

Jamesy wrote:

AspieUtah wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

Some of them were under the influence of alcohol at the time and at a guess i think they were doing drugs earlier that night.

More reason to put some space between you and them. Otherwise, it won't end well. Just vanish, and claim to be "busy." Wish them well, and leave it at that. They will move on with their own pursuits.

My mom did say that they might exclude me from certain events because might involve drugs (i dont do drugs)

Yep. Good advice. I amn't saying that the special day or dinner should never include a Guinness, but keep control of it instead of the other way around. :wink:

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18 Aug 2018, 10:26 pm

AspieUtah wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

AspieUtah wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

Some of them were under the influence of alcohol at the time and at a guess i think they were doing drugs earlier that night.

More reason to put some space between you and them. Otherwise, it won't end well. Just vanish, and claim to be "busy." Wish them well, and leave it at that. They will move on with their own pursuits.

My mom did say that they might exclude me from certain events because might involve drugs (i dont do drugs)

Yep. Good advice. I amn't saying that the special day or dinner should never include a Guinness, but keep control of it instead of the other way around. :wink:

I dont understand what you mean? lol

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19 Aug 2018, 8:47 am

It sounds like they were brushing you off because they were not interested or maybe you did or said something that bothered them. When people do that, they don't know how to tell you what's bothering them because they don't care to hurt your feelings.

I had a few experiences like that where people said they were going to be "Right back" and never did while others, I was asked to "Call back in the next 10 minutes because that person had such and such to do."

Either way, I would ask them if you did anything or say anything that bothered them or hurt their feelings.

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19 Aug 2018, 9:24 am

Jamesy wrote:

AspieUtah wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

AspieUtah wrote:

Jamesy wrote:

Some of them were under the influence of alcohol at the time and at a guess i think they were doing drugs earlier that night.

More reason to put some space between you and them. Otherwise, it won't end well. Just vanish, and claim to be "busy." Wish them well, and leave it at that. They will move on with their own pursuits.

My mom did say that they might exclude me from certain events because might involve drugs (i dont do drugs)

Yep. Good advice. I amn't saying that the special day or dinner should never include a Guinness, but keep control of it instead of the other way around. :wink:

I dont understand what you mean? lol

I apologize. I meant that an occasional beer or other drink is okay, but stay away from drugs and those that enjoy them.

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19 Aug 2018, 9:53 am

Sounds like they just wanted to go home.

Or maybe they just wanted to go somewhere else to do whatever.

Perhaps they cared if you came along. Perhaps not.

They probably don’t hate you.

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19 Aug 2018, 12:28 pm

I've had so-called 'friends' do that to me once. It does hurt.

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19 Aug 2018, 1:20 pm

I would ask them to their face why they vanished and ditched me like that.

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