How do I get back to not caring?

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I don't fit in anywhere.

I have never fit in anywhere.

Before social media came along, I didn't care.

Now I want to restart on social media.

But my karma or whatever points will always be negative cos I'm a weirdo.

I don't fit in, I don't fit in on here either. I have a few pals on here. But I don't actually fit in.

How do I go back to that wonderful aspie thing of quitting caring?

Instead of my current social anxiety.

It takes a lot of time, self love, and understanding in my opinion to get to that point. My uncle is an example of that.

Learn to love yourself. Then love yourself some more!

Where do you get that you don't fit in on here? I assume you mean, on WrongPlanet.

It seems to me you fit in pretty good.

Your posts and replies have seemed to fit in to WP.

Thanks.

I get a sense that American white people are less divided by heritage or religion. I think it's because America is more mixed race so it's more divided by colour than anything else. I wish it could be because of peaceful natures of people but that's not the case anywhere.

People of my heritage in America seem to be rich and republican (American sort of republican). I've studied the history behind why but I won't monologue. However, they are still proud of their roots. People of my heritage in parts of Scotland are obsessed with roots, treated badly about our roots, and historically poor until a lot later.

Scottish nationalists don't really seem that radical to me compared to what I'm used to because of my heritage. They're always (recent centuries) peaceful in their aims.

Thanks for the compliments.

I think I'm a bit social media driven because I had nobody I related to in real life and I'm still trying to find the right people. I was ill with severe anxiety/had a breakdown about 5 years ago and it meant that I didn't leave the house from 2013 to 2018. I think it stunted my development as well. I'm slowly getting back into real life socialising, such as my course, but it's a slow process and I feel a bit like someone who's getting into the shallow end of a swimming pool before swimming out to the deep end rather than diving off a diving board when I might not be able to swim.

I'm trying to cut back on online communication for the simple reason that I can't do it in moderation and it's getting in the way of more worthwhile pursuits. If I'm on here less, that will be part of why.

Hi-I know how you feel. I quit Twitter the same day I joined because I was embarrassed that I only had one follower. I periodically deactivate my facebook account. You didn't elaborate much beyond "not fitting in." Actually you do, in a way, because millions of people feel they don't fit in either. I'm not sure exactly how you have actually tried to fit in, but I can tell you social media is a slippery slope. I started to get depressed because apparently everyone I knew had been sky-diving and taking beach vacations and partying and getting married and/or having kids. It seemed like everyone's life was so much more fulfilling than mine that I started to feel bad about myself and criticized my life. If you don't want to care so much, then I would say the first step is to limit how much time you spend on social media each day. And you may be a weirdo but again, so are gazillions of other people. I'm a weirdo and I'm kind of proud of it. I've struggled to fit in my entire life, which led to raging alcoholism, and the struggle was partly growing up asian in a white family and a white community. How do you not care? I stopped caring when I realized there was nothing wrong with me. I simply had an additional challenge called Autism. And who knows, maybe you'll meet someone on facebook who winds up being a face-to-face friend. I assume you want real human connection, and not just a friend list of people you knew in fourth grade. Message me if you want to keep talking.