Keep feeling guilty about my boyfriend

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My family (mother and 2 aunts) booked up a holiday (vacation) for a week next month, and they wanted a forth person to come too. They suggested it to me and I said yes, but then I said, "what about my boyfriend?" But because 2 bedrooms (4 beds) were the deal, it would be difficult for a fifth person to come too, because the fifth person would have to pay more money for a room, and my boyfriend doesn't have much money, so we thought it'd be logical for the 4 of us to go, as a "girly holiday". So when my boyfriend came round, my aunt said to him that we're going on a girly holiday. My boyfriend didn't mind not going, but I can't help but feel guilty because I feel like we were excluding him, by the way my aunt said "a girly holiday", like she intended to discourage him.
I have said to him a few times that I feel guilty that he isn't coming, and I asked him if he wanted to come, but he says that he wouldn't be able to get the week off work, and he says he would liked to have come if he could afford it and could get that particular week off work, but he also said it'd do me good to have a girly holiday with my family. So he's not upset or jealous or anything...but what if he's feeling rejected inside but won't say? What if he thinks my aunt is fake, like she said "a girly holiday" because it was the politest way to say "you can't come"?
I just keep feeling guilty, like I am leaving him out. Should I feel like this?

Maybe he is happy for you even if he can't go with you.

That's a good sign that he's letting you spend time with other people and girls no less. It means that he's comfortable enough with himself that he's going to trust you with other people. In terms of how you feel, it means that you love him and think the world. Therefore, that's a secure attachment.

You live together so he may be happy to have some time to himself. I live with my girlfriend & she spends about 6 nights a month with family(not all together) & I kinda like the me time

If he doesn't mind, it's all cool.....

Sometimes, women just want to be with other women; and men want to be with other men.

Usually, people don't mind this sort of thing.

Nothing to feel guilty about, in my opinion.

I know, I just think too much about other people.