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How do you cope with that ? I get very anxious . I worry intensely as to how I'll come over to them.

I get very anxious, there's a reason I only do anonymous social media.

I don't like meeting people in general and if I do then it has to be natural (I met my friend because I go to her café every day and it's a small café and she likes to chat) or because they want to go to the same thing as me. Not meeting strangers off the internet.

that has only happened to me once, it led to a short and contentious relationship but it taught us both important life lessons.

Sometimes pedophile act claim they are little girl and then meet the victim and rape


If you meet, meet in public first

Anyone you meet from here on WP would have to be as weird as yourself. So don't worry.

I doubt that the OP needs to worry about pedophiles raping him.

Nor would I. Pedophiles don't like gray hair. Lol!

It would have to be a semiagedophile.

Find a group on Meetup.com that revolves around some activity you both enjoy, or some topic you are both interested in, and agree to meet there. (Make sure that the group's activity or topic is something sufficiently interesting to you that you can have a good time, or at least an interesting time, even if the other person stands you up.) Immediately after the meeting, you can then go out to a diner together.

Agree in advance that, when at the group meeting/activity, you and the other person will focus primarily on the shared activity or topic, and only secondarily on each other. This will help make things less awkward, and will also give you something to talk about when you subsequently go to the diner together.

(My advice above assumes that there actually is at least one activity you can enjoy doing with another person and/or at least one topic you can enjoy discussing with another person. For some people that's not the case, alas.)

If you're meeting someone whom you first encountered here on Wrong Planet, communicate with the person via WP for a while, both in public forums and via private messages, before you meet in person.