This social cue

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Hi:
I have heard this is a common cue from someone who is not interested in you vs others.

1. They will be polite but they will be closed with you and will not seem excited to see you so you think they are distracted or not feeling well
2. Then another person enters the room and suddenly their mood changes and they smile for this person, hug them and are more of an open book
3. When you try to join the conversation, they look at you with a frown and then turn back to the other with a smile on their face

Anyone else notices this? I think it hurts and especially when you like that person and they lose their interest in you.

It is human nature to be excited when you see your friends.

It can also hurt when you are excited to see people who don't feel the same about you. I think this can sometimes hurt more than words or blocking on social media.

I experience this a lot too, and I can never work out what it means.

Do they like me? Do they not anymore?
Have I done something to upset them?
Do they just like that other person more, but then that's still upsetting?

It makes me wonder, why can't people be more direct with what they're feeling!! !

I think those of kinds of cues are very cowardly, rude and hurtful. It also doesn't help when people act like this because that means there are no situations to be resolved.

It's ambiguous. I might behave like this if I'm waiting for a specific person to show up whom I especially want to talk to for whatever reason, and then that person finally shows up. In such a case, of course I'm going to prioritize talking to that person over talking to anyone else, at least for a little while, and I might be a little annoyed if someone else butts into the conversation. But it doesn't mean I don't like the other people too, or that I don't want to talk to them later.


I would suggest being slow to jump to the conclusion that someone has lost interest in you. I wouldn't expect my friends to want to talk to me all the time.

Unfortunately, we seem to live in an era of extremely fragile friendships, so your worries are certainly understandable.