Might gain another ex-friend

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One of my friends told me she is tired of me being down on myself. Admittedly, this is partly why my other two ex-friends broke off the friendships I had with them even though they harmed me in various ways. My negativity is often pointed out by others but I keep struggling in all areas of my life and things just never go my way or change no matter what I do.

I don’t know what to say to this friend now. I don’t want history to repeat itself but I cannot lie and pretend I like my life.

Honestly negativity also brings me down, I try to avoid people who are always sad and pity themselves

You don't have to pretend you are happy when you are not, but you probably should try to improve your life, so it will be acceptable for you. Try to find pleasant activities what you love, be in nature if possible walk barefoot in grass, touch the trees, flowers or animals. It will give you the initial energy for the start.
When I was very unhappy, I set a goal to find at least one beautiful thing/person/concept per day. Actively looking for something or someone outside your life will direct your thoughts away from self (where right now you cannot find happiness) and cheers you up a bit

That's always rough when you lose a friend and especially when you continue to go through a rough time. It sounds like they don't really understand which is often common when it comes to depression. Are you still talking with your counselor?

Now regards to the feeling sad part, the best you can do is never deny your feelings. If you are depressed, it sounds like you are working through a stage of grief which is often associated with loss.

Now, I agree with Harcobi, have you tried positive affirmations? They have lots of them online that you can look up.

Keep telling yourself that.

Also, learning to be friends with the person in the mirror can really help you learn how to love yourself. That way you can talk to yourself in the mirror about all the things you are interested in. All the while you ask yourself what you would like to do.

For instance, the person in the mirror tells you that you would like to go out for ice cream or go to the arcade to play games together