Could this be why she is bullying me?

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In my social group I am being bullied/bossed around by this 45 year old woman every time I see her.

Once I overheard some people in my social group saying about me “James scrounges of his family”.

Do you think me taking advantage of my family could be why she is bullying me? I do lie and say I have a job to my friends but for some reason I don’t think they believe me.......

I know in that situation I would not go to the group. I don't have the patients to mess about like I once used to have.

Is there someone in charge you can go to?

You see, it is none of her business what goes on in your family.

Yes. This can happen. Is there someone else you are closer to in the group you can trust?

You can ask them what has been going on.

Is not easy, but I ignore those who don't come and ask me. I tend to distance myself, but I am not really a group sort of person. I tend to be on the edges of a group and when the event ends. I am away. I dont socialize if I can help it.

Sorry for the bad "vibes" from this person. I would bet she's the bully type in general and finds she can bully you. I am a fairly easy "mark". I probably make doe eyes when someone is picking on me, or there is actually a sign taped to my back. I had a boss who was domineering and disrespectful, and I got the brunt of it. It took me years to assert myself, but -surprisingly- I'm the one left standing in the group (he left). Definitely establish your allies in the group. My allies helped me back on my feet when I felt knocked down and applied pressure/support in ways that they could.

I never really had allies as I wasn't one to get that close to others, so I would just leave and do my own thing, but if you do have close friends, consider forming a new smaller group just with your friends.

what would happen if you gave her what for?