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Rodland
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23 Jul 2020, 6:10 am

I've been following a feed of one person for years. She seems to be sympathetic, smart and all that but she also claims all the people around her are "toxic" and are "abusing" her. She never describes further what this "abuse" is or what is actually happening. I don't believe all those other people can really be "toxic" and she seems to express these vague accusations in inappropriate contexts. There must be something wrong with this particular person. What it might be?



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23 Jul 2020, 2:27 pm

Theres nothing you can do except let her get on with it and pray she sees sense at some point in the future. Getting involved wouldnt be a good idea for you or her.


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25 Jul 2020, 8:12 am

Wow, I feel sorry for you. 8O. I don't know where you learned how to be cold and dismissive towards other people who you don't know. Whoever taught you those values is wrong.

First, just be careful about making assumptions about a person as you don't know what is really going on. Maybe that person doesn't want to talk about details about why and how a relationship is toxic. Second, be careful about posting things like this on a public forum because it might just get back to them. Third, making comments about how "There must be something wrong with her," is inappropriate as you are not a trained professional.

Knock it off!



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25 Jul 2020, 11:31 am

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Wow, I feel sorry for you. 8O. I don't know where you learned how to be cold and dismissive towards other people who you don't know. Whoever taught you those values is wrong.


You are now dismissive towards me. Being interested in other people's problems is not a sign of coldness.

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First, just be careful about making assumptions about a person as you don't know what is really going on. Maybe that person doesn't want to talk about details about why and how a relationship is toxic.


I didn't talk about sexual relationships but about a case where somebody loses all the people around her.

There's nothing wrong in interest to understand why something like this can happen.

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Third, making comments about how "There must be something wrong with her," is inappropriate as you are not a trained professional.


Even if somebody thought he's a pelican and jumped off the roof, I wasn't allowed to say there's something wrong since I'm not a trained professional?



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25 Jul 2020, 12:07 pm

Whatever, you can believe whatever you want, but neither I not her get our validity from you nor rather from anyone who doesn't understand and who doesn't want to. However, you are away there are other points of view don't you?

Also, it might be an excellent idea would be if you stopped reading her posts and following her altogether so you can pick her apart and humiliate her. Don't you have anything else better to do and more worthwhile with your life?

Finally, until you have walked a mile in her shoes does not give you the right to judge



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26 Jul 2020, 3:02 pm

I do agree posting this in a public forum is a bit tactless. You wouldnt like it if someone made a thread like this about you. And you shouldnt really comment unless you know all the ins and outs of the situation, kinda voyeuristic.


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26 Jul 2020, 3:16 pm

Rodland wrote:
I've been following a feed of one person for years. She seems to be sympathetic, smart and all that but she also claims all the people around her are "toxic" and are "abusing" her. She never describes further what this "abuse" is or what is actually happening. I don't believe all those other people can really be "toxic" and she seems to express these vague accusations in inappropriate contexts. There must be something wrong with this particular person. What it might be?

All the story is very vague so it's impossible to tell.
Some people are going through hard times. Some people have various problems that need solving. Some people seek attention for the sake of attention itself. One does not rule out another.
If you're close with her, listen and try to make things out. If you're not close with her, it's okay to leave her to sort it all for herself. You're not responsible for other people's actions.


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26 Jul 2020, 4:30 pm

Rodland wrote:
I've been following a feed of one person for years. She seems to be sympathetic, smart and all that but she also claims all the people around her are "toxic" and are "abusing" her. She never describes further what this "abuse" is or what is actually happening. I don't believe all those other people can really be "toxic" and she seems to express these vague accusations in inappropriate contexts. There must be something wrong with this particular person. What it might be?
It may be that at least one of her followers makes unsupported assumptions regarding the validity of her claims and the cohesiveness of her mental state; but I could be wrong.


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26 Jul 2020, 6:43 pm

I felt that this was post was downright nasty and also an attack against other people on WP, who otherwise come here for a haven. I honestly find this kind of post as a turnoff to people who are trying to reach out, and they get the cold shoulder from people who insist they know better than you.