Do you have problems with your NT siblings?

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Do you and your NT siblings get along well or not? For example, me and my NT younger sister don't have the best relationship. We often bicker because she has a bad habit of saying or doing stupid or mean things just to make me angry since she gets a kick out of it. I respond by yelling at her to shut up and leave me alone. Sometimes if she does something physical (keeps touching me with her feet and toes against my skin repeatedly even when I tell her to stop multiple times), I slap her on the arm or push her away. It's like she finds my anger and distress entertaining to her and she's been like this since she was a child. It's getting old now. She's also very judgmental about how I dress and act. She always tells me that what I'm wearing never looks good, that I look like a child and that I look stupid and it angers me. She's always embarrassed about how I dress, wear my hair and talk. She also criticizes my interests as well by saying that they're childish, weird and that I'm too old for them. She gets very snappy and acts like a controlling mother by always telling me what to do and angrily saying things like "stop it", "get over it" or "you're acting like a baby" whenever I have anxiety attacks which makes me feel even more anxious, helpless, confused and hurt. It makes me uncomfortable to be around her when we have to go out. She also likes to be nosy and try to look at my text messages and accuse me of doing inappropriate things even though I'm not doing anything like that. She even treats me like a child even though I'm grown and calls me names like "little girl" or "child" which makes me so furious. I feel like she hates me for not being normal like her and that she wants to change me. I really find it hard to love her even though she's my only sister. When she was a little kid she was just pesty but now as a teenager she's not only pesty but also rude, mean, controlling, judgmental and just plain cruel. Let me know about your NT sibling problems down below.

I had problems with my younger sister when the two of us were younger. Since she found out that my disability is Level 1 Autism when I was 15 and she was 12, she tried bossing me around until I told her to stop abusing me when I was 25 and she was 22. She tried to boss me around and I wouldn't have any of that. We drove our parents batty for an entire decade.

Your sister sounds very immature and like she has an overall lack of understanding about how to treat other people. I'm very sorry that she treats you like this and I hope that she matures soon. Do your parents come to your defense at all, or just allow her to treat you like that?

I had some problems with my NT siblings growing up, but that was from them not understanding my limitations (I don't think they realize I got assessed for autism, and my oldest brother I don't think believes I have it as his view of it is the "severe" presentation and I mask okay around my family) and that some of those were brought on by abuse/neglect from our parents (they are all adults and had moved out by the time I was in the first grade, plus didn't realize any of that was happening to me and my also autistic brother).

I honestly had more issues with my brother because he thought I got more attention than he did (because I was born premature and was forcefully coddled too much) and our parents' relationship didn't teach us how to be nice to each other, plus they didn't properly reprimand us for arguing and just ignored it. Mix that with the social and communication issues two autistic kids have and you have a very, very crappy sibling relationship.

It improved until he continued to accuse me of being allowed to do more than he did (which is not true, I only did the things I did because I was stubborn, and he just happened to relent easier and was trusted more so he didn't have to fight as much to do things), didn't return any of my advances to have a positive relationship, and I got tired of being compared to him as he is better equipped to function than I am, so we just cut each other out of our lives.

Sometimes we have arguments, but not often. It used to be worse in the past.