Update: One sided friendship is over

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About a week and a half ago, I had written about a friendship that is one-sided. Some people said this is a toxic relationship while another said this is a frenemy. Finally, I had talked with a good friend about him and she said that sounds like he was manipulating me. This was by
1. Dumping on me with his personal problems while not bothering to listen to me
2. He has been treating me like a doormat

The last time I talked to him was the straw that broke the camel's back, which was about a week and a half ago. He basically unloaded his problems unto me. When I tried to tell a relating story it was "I...don't...care," and that I was trying to talk about myself. What? He also attempted to lay a guilt trip on me when I stood up for myself. I was really mad at that point.

Since then:
1. He has not knocked on my door to talk whenever he goes to talk with another neighbor who lives in my building
2. He has not called me

Therefore the friendship with him is pretty much over. I have been avoiding him and ignoring him and I am happy with that.

Well done!

It's hard to get rid of people like that but life is a lot better when you do.

Now you can work on replacing them with someone much nicer who cares about you and brings you positivity instead of negativity.

Good riddance to bad rubbish.

Assertiveness pays dividends.
I bet you feel empowered now.

Thank you, honestly, my freedom was there all along. I also had looked at the friendship more closely and it was on a more casual level. Other than
1. Eating out twice
2. I going to play with his cats whenever I ran into him
3. Run a few errands together
4. We exchanged cards

I realize the relationship was more casual

1. He never called me on the phone and vice versa. He only did the dumping whenever I ran into him.
2. I attempted to invite him to a few of my things and he was never available - he never invited me to do anything
3. We never got together to do things- such as going to movies, getting to know my friends, etc.
4. He was not all that excited to see me, I was always the one reaching out. It was "Oh hi."
5. As I said, he never seemed interested in the things I was doing in my life. Everything is about him.

This is good to know!

Bravo!

No loss at all.

Nice one

It's been three weeks, and it's gotten to where I don't think twice about avoiding him or walking by his house. I just automatically take another path and ignore him. If he comes to the building where I live in to talk with other neighbors, I don't even open my door or say hello. As for the last time, I saw him; he did not see me and I had my headphones in and just kept walking by.

In all honesty, I don't have time for him.

Mona Perth, just about everyone in the neighborhood is fed up with him as he seems to

1. Fine people for things while the same rules don't apply to him
2. We all think he is very controlling as well

As for not being on speaking terms, there really has not been any communication or trouble on both ends. I have discovered that he only contacts me whenever he wants something from me. Even then, I get him what he wants without any contact with him. Other than that, I don't talk to him, period.