Hoping to make friends!

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I know this is one of the most common complaints within the ASD community - but I have the hardest time making friends - and getting anyone to stick around for more than a couple of conversations. I am a nice person but just sooooo awkward! I cant maintain a face to face conversation for more than a few minutes, even with my therapists lol.

Any other social starved aspie's want to be friends, feel free to message me
(I hope its ok to post this here)

Yes. It is ok to post here because it is a forum. It is what they are for.

I do not know if I am on the spectrum or not, but you are in good company so we have all made friends on this site. So chat away! And if you like trains, you have found an instant friend. Haha! (I can be friends anyway! You don't have to like trains. It is my humour as I like trains. Hehe!)

But anyway. Yes. Make yourself at home and chat away via typing using your fingers... Oh noo! I sound wierd now! Uhmmm. Just type! Hahahhaha!

It's harder than it looks.

Good luck with your quest of meeting new people here! There are a lot of talkative people here. I am not one of them and often very quiet and not looking for friends, but I do personally hope you find people.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

I'll talk to you, I have absolutely no friends either. I always make people uncomfortable with my awkwardness.

sure. Forming and maintaining long term relationships is a know deficit of people who have ASD.

The funny thing is, i used to go to a drop in support service for people with ASD.
where every week the same people used to frequent who also had the same problems.

One or two considered that they had no friends apart from family.
It was strange to me, as the people who turned up every week, week in week out,
i automatically considered friends.

But some of them, basically disregarded all their friends from the drop in centre to amount to
"i have no friends".

I have experimented trying to communicate with a couple of them, and one of them is in fairly
regular email contact with me, and we some times meet up.

Another one, who i also regard as a friend, occasionally contacts me at random intervals and says hello
or some thing else, usually completely off subject, which i usually reply to trying to keep the subject going.

But i do find it extremely hard to keep conversation with the second guy, who really is even more off subject
than I am.

There are others who frequent the drop in service who are as equally isolated who I would be more than happy
to be friends with, including a young attractive woman, but alas, her anxiety, hypersensitivity problems and social phobia prevents her from forming such friendships, perhaps especially with the members of the opposite sex.

I mean, I am sensitive to an extent but also suffer from anxiety etc.
so hard to really gauge what to do when someone is uncomfortable with communicating while at the same time
desperate to make contact.

what can you do?

So making friends, while not being a completely no hoper is a little bit more unpredictable when it comes to Aspies,
and some times not due to any significant problem, in some cases, it really can be "its me not you"...
but what can you do!?

I always like to make friends.

Welcome to Wrong Planet. I am glad you are here.

Thanks for all the kind replies. You guys seem awesome!! !