Considering Alcohol for Socialising

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Hi,
I'm 21 (female), final year of college, and have very little friends....
I don't seem have had the life experiences anyone else has....

I never went through the stages of drinking that my peers did... e.g. sneaking alcohol to parties at 16, drinking in college and house parties at 18/19, drinking on weekends away now (basically like a normal adult) at 20/21

I've never drank, for some reason as an 11/12 year old when people said "oh when your a teen you'll start drinking and going to parties etc.." I was obstinate I would never drink... I think to be a goody two shows..... that somehow it made me better than everyone else.... One of my friends doesn't drink for religious reasons and honestly I feel like that's a very valid reason to not drink. Whereas my reasons make absolutely no sense.

Now I'm thinking that I was a bit deluded ... and I'm considering starting to drink alcohol....
Basically to make me more relaxed hopefully at social stuff... At the moment I just clam up with anxiety and TBH I'd rather just have a good time. I'm kinda sick of feeling like I can't join in as well....
I think I'm also in a better place to start to drink now... I'm figuring out life stuff, be it later than my peers. Maybe I'm just ready now?


Disclaimer: Obviously I know alcohol is not going to solve all my problems.... not by a long shot... but I just want to experience things other people are.
If I did start, I've thought about it... and would only experiment slightly with very little alcohol with my family first so in a "safe space" if you will. So there's no danger of me getting wildly drunk and making a fool of myself :-/ or becoming a raging alcoholic to experience extroversion all the time....

I've heard autism makes you more susceptible to things like medication, but also alcohol so has anyone experienced this...?
Do many of you drink, have any of you started to drink later in life (like I'm thinking of doing) and what are your general thoughts on this....

Leave thoughts/experiences/etc. below if you guys have any

(Also, I know it's slightly mad to make a forum about this, but I guess it's the Aspie in me )
Also, sorry if this is in the wrong place, I'm relatively new here

Alcohol does lower anxiety. Try it at home and don't ever pace your consumption based on the people you're with, especially not if they're much larger than you or drink much more often than you.

Personally, I'm less sensitive to most medications and intoxicants.

I've never been drunk in my life. I get scared of a hangover, I don't like the feeling of alcohol going to my head, and I worry that I might become really aggressive or embarrassing when drunk. Also I feel bloated and nauseas after just one alcoholic drink, I don't understand how people can drink one after the other.

Also I don't like drunk people, as they can be intimidating, obnoxious and even insane. It becomes the 'uncanny valley' for me. If I went to a bar where there was no alcohol allowed, I'd probably feel more relaxed and sociable.

I don't think it is wize to use alcohol in this way.

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Being on the edge of drunk is still pretty fun and safer

I drink 2 large 7% beer cans now at 500 ml (or 17.5 ounce)

experiment at home or with people you trust. Have a group of people you know if you go out clubbing

Don’t be a fool.

Please don’t start drinking alcohol just to seem “cool.”

And don’t drink alcohol in order to “feel better.” That’s the quickest way to alcoholism.

I’m a nondrinker….and I’m not religious in the least.

As Steve knows well, alcoholism puts you down the rabbit hole, into the Abyss.

Alcohol only either solves anxiety issues or other issues around having overly controlled inhibitions (being shy, too avoidant, too nervous, being 'too conscious', being unrelatable through sheer cerebral capacity, "out of sync", etc...) that gets in the way of socializing.

It doesn't grant someone who lacks the ability to read social situations and body language any super reading ability -- unless said super reading or the constant attempts of it is what impairs one from any socializing.

It worsens or at least wear down one's internal and external regulation -- in both ways, more sensitive to one and less sensitive to another.

It makes one more reckless, but also it makes one clumsier.
In other words, one can be more relaxed but that doesn't equally mean less awkward.



Not very recommended in my case.
I don't need alcohol to socialize because I don't deal with similar anxieties or internal concerns.

Alcohol, drunken enough as intented or not, in my case, is instead a perfect excuse for me to let loose more.

I don't need to drink too much to loosen up -- rather, I want others think I get drunk easily so I consciously hold back less.
But there's a cost to consider -- it meant people thought I'm more reckless than usual and therefore more worried.

Drink enough for real, I'll simply just lose an option to have enough conscious control and please my own pride away from shameless thoughts -- or means to defend myself properly.


Anyways, I don't drink regularly.
So far, I've only drank some out of dare or jest, out of trying to acquire it's taste to see if I like it...

While I'm what seem to be a happy drunk... Beyond that, I get this tunnel like vision and narrowed like thoughts and processing.

While I'd aspire to be someone who can out drink others and still sober but... I'm not sure if that's worth pursuing at the moment.

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I've used alcohol for socializing and I don't really suggest it. I didn't do anything dumb since I don't drink much at all, but when you eventually have to talk to people sober you're still not going to know what to do/how to deal with the anxiety you get, and people are also going to notice that you are much different sober. It's actually even more anxiety inducing to try to socialize without alcohol after you use it as a crutch for awhile.

when i was 17 my mother kicked me out and i turned to drugs and alcohol to survive mentally
i became the most popular and adored sex object among a group of dirty men so it wasnt an ideal thing to do

i wasnt like myself when i was drunk i was more nt very chatty smiled always and extremely popular around guys
i sometimes tell them i was autistic but they didnt believe me and i dont think they knew what autism even is all they saw in me was a drunk/stoned sex object in mini skirts and dresses prancing around flirting with every man in sight

no not an ideal lifestyle,im never going there again thank you very much

I digress, if people drink then at least do it because it’s fun. Not because it will solve your problems

Edit: see you’ve said that already

I've drank alcohol numerous times for the primary reason to not be anxious around people at events. In short, I overall recommend against it, especially if you never consumed alcohol before.
It can help, yes, but nearly every time I drank alcohol, I often felt worse the next day and would've prefered if I didn't.
Also a big fat warning!! ! If you get intoxicated even if you don't mean to, you will feel like absolute crap for a few days and randomly remember embarrassing things.

So no, I don't recommend it, but I won't lie that it has helped me socialize nearly every time I consumed alcohol.

If I could go back I'd never start drinking.
When I was 20 I had my first taste of alcohol and it was like finding a key.
Suddenly I could socialize and talk with people, it was great!
Later in life I really enjoyed parties, music festivals and lots of crazy stuff, it was awesome!
Now I struggle to be sober or at least keep the consumtion at a reasonable level.
Problem is the "key" kind of fits for other problems, like anxiety and insomnia, but it also worsen those problems, especially in the long run.
I never had the problems others mention with feeling bad the day(s) after, apart from the physical things like headache etc. I kind of wish I had.

/Mats