Making friends in general

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I have a friend who was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome a few years ago and she was a really really nice and a lot of fun. But I didn't trace and aspie traits in. Infact, I noticed a big gap between us when it comes to being on the spectrum. Anyway, she went down to this vocational school that was like a college setting for people with disabilities. And when she was down there for nine months, her personality and attitude changed toward anyone with any sort of disability. She came back from there in this past March and didn't bother to contact me to get together or anything. Everytime I would call her to ask if she was interested in getting together, she led me around with excuses that she was busy. And the last time I did see her was at Christmas time when she was on break, and she had also gotten bossy and rude towards me. And she was very short. She decided to join the army because she wants to impress her jerky boyfriend. And a few weeks ago, she told me that she was leaving this week. And I asked her if she wanted to get together and have dinner before she left at 9 weeks in basic training. And she had said no, and that she had to train for her physical before she even had to leave. And that shook me as a little razzled. And she also told me that she was recently diagnosed again and that she didn't have asperger's syndrome. And that people with Asperger's Syndrome couldn't get into the army. And that really really hurt. So I ended up snapping and calling her and yelling. I told her that she had an attitude towards anyone with Asperger's Syndome. And that she had hurt me because she wasn't interested in hanging out before she left. And I told her that some of our greatest composers and science people had it, such as Albert Einstien. And it slipped out that I thought that he was smarter than her. And I by accidently called her the B word.
When it comes to NT's. It's harder to make friends with them, and most people with other high-function disabilities don't seem to understand me, and I get rejected. And I feel like this girl didn't like me anymore because she didn't understand us.

sounds like shes playing games. id stay away from those kinds of people. we have enough problems

You did the right thing by telling her off.

You have to let out your fury.

f**k that stupid b***h.

Use the b word. Use it.

Swear, scream, don't hold back.

I commend and applaud you for what you did. If I were in your position, and the friend was a guy, I would have beaten that guy senseless, because I don't stand for stupidity like that, and neither shoudl you.

RESPECT!

It's sad that you and your friend disagree. She has obviously chosen a path for her life that doesn't include you. Since she got a new diagnosis without Asperger's, she no longer has that connection with you. It may be time to accept that she is no longer interested in friendship, and to look for a new friend if necessary.

Note: Just letting the period do its job and not typing "and" before every sentence will save you tons of keystrokes.

Well,
we only would talk on the phone, but I never felt like it was enough. But it's ok. She left for boot camp on Wed. And she didn't call to say that she was leaving, but was a really really upset when I called her. She didn't appologize either. It was, she's right and I'm wrong. She said that she was very hurt when I called her a b***h. And I felt bad doing what I did, but then again, what I said was relatively minor.

I am proud of you for calling her, yelling at her, and telling her exactly how you felt. She stinks.

Thankyou so much for all of your support. I had to laugh because she was upset when I called her a name. And I am thinking, at boot camp they are probally yelling in her face right now as I speak. And I bet she has to deal with drill sergants yelling in her face and calling her a b***h.

She's getting what she deserves everyday.

Just remember that.

You're a good person and you don't need any b*****s in your life. Be strong.

Lol.

What an idiot, going into the military to impress someone. LOL

No,
she has some issues that I think she should straighten out. So it's not exactly a bad thing. Perhaps it will give her more respect to anyone who is weird. And maybe she'll find someone else with more morals because this guy has some anger issues that I don't have time to discuss with you at the moment.

I have trouble making friends because I am basically not interested. I find people to be annoying and I don't see tbe point in having friends. Anybody else feel this way?

I don't want friends, because I already have some great friends, and great friends are hard to find, so might as well just keep the ones you have and do your own thing.

Friends are important though.

My only best friend is me and that's just the way I like it. People have tried several times to get me to make friends, but it just hasn't worked because I am not interested and I think that friends aren't what keep people alive. I always say to people "You can live just fine without friends, but you can't live without a heart or lungs." Nobody really cares what I say and they don't listen either.

Sort of. For me making friends takes ages and is difficult. On the ohter hand, my experience with friendship is that it doesn't last, that it's superficial and disposable, and that they won't be there for you when you need them. These two combined mean that it simply doesn't seem to be worth the effort. If I could make real friends then I'd try even if took ages and was difficult; if it was easy to make friends, I would even if they came and went. I don't expect I will ever make friends again and have little interest in it.

You shouldn't say things like that. You see, I have had NTs do that to me several times. But when I joined a few support groups, I started meeting people I could relate too. And I even made saome friends out of the deal. And all of them have been there for me, and myself there for them. So don't give up. The reason some of these people aren't interested in us, is because we have the things we really like, and everything else seems boring, so they reject us. Why I've even had an aspie that I thought was interested in me in my last place I lived. And he tried to become Mr. NT. And I was into Lord of the Rings. And I saw The Two Towers 5 times. I told him I did, and he told me I have problems and literally walked out of my life, a month before I moved away. So don't worry about making friends. You can do it. NT's are a pain in the butt.