How far would you go for a friend?

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I would be with that person for a friend for 100% ether it was for the better or worst of times almost like marriage.

I watched my 16 year old son buy a bass guitar for a friend who "just didn't have the money". This was a nice kid, but my son had a job and worked hard for his money, and I wasn't too thrilled with my son spending so much money on the friend.

Seriously, a nice kid. He ended up giving the guitar back a year or so later.

But my son was such a loyal friend, he would have done anything for this guy. I'm afraid that my younger son would do the same, or even more.

Be careful about being "100%" there for a friend. This could open you to financial abuse. There are people who will recognize your vulnerabilities and your loyal nature and take advantage.

As for friendships - there is sometimes an ebb and flow. We have people in our lives for a reason and season. As life changes and flows - friends will come to the forefront or be on the backburner. For instance, when I was single and childless - I had some friends who went to bars and restaurants with. When I met my boyfriend/later-to-become-husband, I did not have as much in common with these particular friends. This happened even more after I had my kids. I do not hold any ill feelings towards these once close friends. It is just that are respective lives got very different and we drifted apart. If I see them walking down the street or perchance to meet them in public or wherever, I am always delighted to spend a few minutes catching up.

Also, remember there are different strata of friends. I have a very close friend who I have known for 15 years. I have other friends who are important to me, but just not as close. Then I have more acquaintance style friends and "work friends" (these are folks I have coffee with at work, but if one of us changed jobs - we probably wouldn't really keep in touch). I would lend a hundred bucks to my very close friend (knowing that he will pay me back and not being too concerned if he didn't). I wouldn't lend a hundred bucks to any of the other friends. The other friends would not even ask me for a loan because it would seem inappropriate and taking advantage of me.

Remember, you can't be all things to all people. I have a spouse, I don't need a friend who is like a second spouse (minus the sex and parental responsibility )

I am too loyal to my friends, I've had some walk all over me and tell me to do things because they know they can. Not my current friends though, they're the best I've had so far seriously, I'm lucky I found them, my old friends were crap.
I wouldn't do absolutely ANYTHING for them though, if they asked me to go to the other side of the country to get them something, or if they asked me to spend shed loads of money on them or summat, then I wouldn't do that. And I wouldn't trust them with my life, for most people in a life or death situation for example being held at gun point, I think their first instinct would be to save themselves. Which is understandable, because who wants to be dead, really?

Depends on the friend. Maybe to the shops and back.

Friendship is a 50/50 relationship. You give 50% and they give 50% and together you meet on common ground in the middle. You cannot buy friendship or be a martyr for friendship. That just draws fly's not friends. Too easy to get hurt when you pour your whole self into it. There are a lot of predators out there that hunt the meek.

All the way.

Uhm...that's rhetorical, right?

It would depend on the friend. Of course, first, I'd have to have one.

One of the criteria by which I determine the depth of friendship is the infrequency with which a person asks me to do sh*t for them.

For a proven friend, I would anything that my physical and mental being would allow... especially when they need someone to listen to them talk about their problems! I'm good at that.

Haha yes

Same here. I remember one "friend" I had, who used to sit next to me in Maths, and she would spend the entire lesson on her phone texting people while I did my work. She used to tell me to hurry up and finish, and when I did, she snatched my book off me and copied my answers. There was another girl who did that too, that was in Spanish. I was such a pushover when I was younger that I think I might as well have had the word "WELCOME" stamped across my forehead.

I am still loyal to friends. I offer a listening ear and I try to make them feel better if they're upset, but I do keep my distance to some extent. I try not to become too emotionally involved with people now, there are some who can spot weakness a mile off and lock on like a shark sensing blood, and it is these types who can manipulate and play on that to their advantage. My Dad (who is a firefighter and sometimes works with kids who start fires) told me about one boy he went to see, and this boy would set fire to himself just to get a few cheap laughs from his "friends". That upset me.

not too far i wont even borrow money unless i know i get em back other then money to certain degree i do stuff

If the person is a decent person, and a real friend, I'll do a lot, for them.

I don't mind doing things for friends. But not to the point that I feel used.

It depends on how they are with me aswell, if I happen to really like the person, I will carry on probably all the way to keep the friendship in good condition but if I was disadvantaged or treated like crap for a well long time, then I would probably ditch.