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I just decided to put this topic up to ask whether you think it is right to get involved in your ex-girlfriend of boyfriend's new relationships?

Just asking seen as I am currently being told by an ex-boyfriend who I will not name to save humilliation (Chris) how to run my relationship with my new boyfriend Sam by telling me Sam is cheating on me and is saying I should not stay with him.

First decide if you care whether it is true. If you do care, then check it out for yourself.

I said no because, in general, it is a bad idea to 'get involved.' But if I knew there was deceit going on, I might reveal it in order to tip them off that they need to watch out. I wouldn't consider that getting 'involved' in a relationship. I would consider it a good samaritan action.

Well with me Chris is telling all my other friends that Sam is treating me badly or that I have had an arguement with him. Then I'm having people telling me that Sam is being nasty towards me. BUT HE ISN'T! He's the most caring person, if you don't count David my ex, in the world and I know for a fact he loves me a lot. It just pisses me off when I hear Chris has been talking about him like this. I mean, he doesn't hardly even know Sam!

Ok. Sounds like a 'psycho ex' and everyone eventually either has one or is one.

Actually he's on this forum. If you want I can pm u his name!

dangerous games, chaps, both the interfering AND the threat to unmask. you should tell chris to back off (but NICELY... unless he gets stroppy, THEN you are allowed to shoot him). however, threatening to PM his real name isn't going to help anyone. it's between you and him. keep it that way.

and here endeth the lesson from Auntie Morgvis

I personally think it is right for you to get involved in your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend's relationship because divorce can happen to the nicest people. It doesn't always mean that they hold anything against you just because your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend may have drifted apart from you in the first place. I think you should only consider the degree that your ex doesn't like you.

This sort of thing is playing with fire. And AS people are among the least equipped for this sort of thing.

Sure, go ahead and try, but I would not be suprised if it turns into diaster.

I have confidence and optimism, so allow me to defend myself.

Sinsister:

Wow! Isn't that ironic? I answer your question somewhat, and explain that I understand, but right now, I think I will be more specific.

If you know someone who has an ex, I don't think you should hold anything against them. Yes, divorce can happen to the nicest people, but as long as you like the person who is on bad terms with your other acquaintance, that's what matters. I can give you one good example of this theory.

An old friend of mine had an ex-boyfriend who broke up with her for a reason I don't know. It turns out that he actually went to a different college than his ex-girlfriend.

Come to find out, the next person he dated was another good friend of mine. They went out with each other for a long time. The other friend of mine has since gone out with another guy, who just happens to be a neighbor of mine.

My point is, I don't hold anything against anybody. I'm sure the reasons why they all broke up were not anything personal. I bet they are all good people.

It sounds like your ex is jealous and is trying to split you up. Personally, I would ignore him and try to cut him out of your life altogether.

Excuse me for 1 thing Lucie, Feel free to f*****g unmask me because I never said those things. I told DANNY I thought sam had said he already had a Girlfreind one time I was talking to him. I never said he needed to tell you. I never said Sam had a girl freind. I said I thought Sam had SAID he had a girl freind.

Get your goddam facts right next time, OK?
I do not appreciate Slander. As for the arguement w Sam story, Danny is the 1 who told ME that 1. I didn't tell him....

Take it outside kids...

Alright, alright, everyone! Move along, nothing to see here!