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ivyeight6
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23 Jan 2023, 6:56 pm

An autistic guy at a day program I work worries that he will get complaints from other staff members for making them uncomfortable just like he can’t be around a staff member who is a young woman he likes anymore. How do I deal with that?



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23 Jan 2023, 9:32 pm

ivyeight6 wrote:
An autistic guy at a day program I work worries that he will get complaints from other staff members for making them uncomfortable just like he can’t be around a staff member who is a young woman he likes anymore. How do I deal with that?

Exactly what specific things was he doing that made that woman uncomfortable?


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24 Jan 2023, 6:19 am

He was following her around and eroding her boundaries.



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24 Jan 2023, 8:39 am

ivyeight6 wrote:
He was following her around and eroding her boundaries.

Has he been clearly informed of exactly what he was doing wrong, and does he understand exactly what he needs to avoid doing with other people in the future?


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24 Jan 2023, 10:19 am

Yes. He does.



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24 Jan 2023, 10:21 am

You have to give the person a good talking-to.

If the person continues doing this, despite being advised not to, maybe the person has to be terminated from the program.



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24 Jan 2023, 10:23 am

Well. He doesn’t do it anymore.



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24 Jan 2023, 11:13 am

All right then....problem solved.



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25 Jan 2023, 8:30 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
All right then....problem solved.


Well, her problem is solved. But his problem isn't. Someone should teach him how to deal with women he likes. E.g. how to not become obtrusive. And that men are different to women, e.g. that many women constantly get "chased" by hordes of men trying to get into their pants. Which I would find extremely annoying if I was a woman, and it would make me become defensive.