I can love cute animals but I can't love people

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12 Oct 2024, 12:46 pm

I put it down to feelings of love being drowned out by feeling distrustful and afraid of people and generally being avoidant.

Like I still feel empathy and compassion for others but I don't feel affection.

Sometimes I feel admiration for other people but it's very intellectual. Other people can be cool but I don't think I feel care for them.

But I realised I can love cute animals like my neighbor's pet cat. I put it down to cats not being a threat. Also cats not triggering my sensory issues by being loud.

Not really sure what to think of this. Suggests to me that I should work on building confidence or by finding more peers who are similar to me (trans, ADHD, ...) and I have the ability to trust more.

Anyhow I'm not broken or anything I just have a lot of difficulty trusting people so I have difficulty being caring and forming relationships.

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13 Oct 2024, 12:02 pm

Puddle of Water wrote:

Not like mankind is worthy of love anyway.

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14 Oct 2024, 6:54 am

great insights here.

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14 Oct 2024, 6:52 pm

pokeystinker wrote:

Not like mankind is worthy of love anyway.

We can choose to love regardless.

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14 Oct 2024, 7:11 pm

pokeystinker wrote:

Puddle of Water wrote:

Not like mankind is worthy of love anyway.

Of course it is. Even if you don't believe that people as a whole are worthy for various reasons (wars, conflict, etc.), individuals certainly are.

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16 Oct 2024, 8:12 pm

bee33 wrote:

Of course it is. Even if you don't believe that people as a whole are worthy for various reasons (wars, conflict, etc.), individuals certainly are.

People aren't worth anything at all, people are what things are worth for.

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16 Oct 2024, 9:05 pm

Animals love you back unconditionally. Humans not so much. In fact is there really such a thing as humans loving unconditionally at all? I used to think most parents loved their kids in that way, but now I'm not so sure.

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16 Oct 2024, 9:40 pm

I have loved unconditionally and have had people love me unconditionally.

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17 Oct 2024, 4:17 pm

People are cute animals. :heart:

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