I sometimes feel that social media should never have existed

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chris1989
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Yesterday, 10:01 am

I do sometimes feel that social media should never have been a thing because I seem to think it makes some people like me feel that we "have" to do things by a certain time and look and be a certain way.

It does make me also think would I still be feeling at times lonesome as I do now if social media wasn't around and happier that it wasn't around?



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Yesterday, 10:34 am

^ Social media has been linked to depression and loneliness. Using social media can be a feeling similar to that of being alone in a busy room, especially if you aren't particularly popular on there.

I would ditch social media if it is getting you down. Have a trial of not using it?



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Yesterday, 11:12 am

chris1989 wrote:
It does make me also think would I still be feeling at times lonesome as I do now if social media wasn't around and happier that it wasn't around?


I don't know you chris1989 but I've read a fair few of your topics on WP and it seems to me deeply rooted in your psyche to compare yourself to others and find yourself wanting. My instinct is that in the absence of social media you'd find some other stick to beat yourself with.

Not that I don't believe that social media has become a highly destructive force in our culture and ought to be outlawed.

I just don't think it's the root cause of your problem.


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Yesterday, 1:55 pm

DuckHairback wrote:
chris1989 wrote:
It does make me also think would I still be feeling at times lonesome as I do now if social media wasn't around and happier that it wasn't around?


I don't know you chris1989 but I've read a fair few of your topics on WP and it seems to me deeply rooted in your psyche to compare yourself to others and find yourself wanting. My instinct is that in the absence of social media you'd find some other stick to beat yourself with.

Not that I don't believe that social media has become a highly destructive force in our culture and ought to be outlawed.

I just don't think it's the root cause of your problem.


It mostly isn't just social media I compare myself to sometimes. I have been times now were I don't use it as often as I used. I haven't posted any posts or uploaded any photos for a long time except only other people post photos of me. I stopped sometimes posting negative statuses and messages on Facebook knowing it wasn't getting me anywhere and that it was just attention seeking and seeking reassurance from others I didn't know. From the beginning I wanted to feel like fitted in because had nice photos and had more friends. I was getting frustrated because I felt like I wasn't being acknowledged or commented on things I posted to make myself look interesting in the end I resorted to posting unhelpful negative messages, and venting my frustrations for having just a bad day, having no friends, not having or doing what others were doing etc to the point where people kept telling me to stop. I still have Facebook but only to scroll and then leave.