Wasted time not being friends with people I wasn't friends

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I seem to feel I've wasted my time not being friends with people I didn't befriend or wasn't friends with. Some of these people hung around in groups at school and played sports, played games etc and to some extent did that stuff outside school. My social skills were not as good then unlike now. Some of these people continued to hang out years after leaving school and seen photos at clubs and stuff. I seem to think that had I been friends with them and went out with them, I wouldn't have been writing any of these threads. It does make me any more hopeful about meeting people and seem to worry that more and more are getting paired off, married and starting families. I know of people of my generation who got married in their early/mid 20s and now have kids some now 10, 12 or 15 years old. Seeing that makes me feel bad as though I should have done that a long time ago but at 21, 25, 28 or 30 I wasn't thinking of or had kids then as they did.

Are you going to mope, feel resigned and change nothing, or are you going to learn from this and attempt to behave differently in the future?

Seems to me that by obsessing about what you coulda woulda shoulda done in the past, you're just continuing to waste time today - time you could be spending going out and finding out what you like, instead of trying to copy fake people on social media, in the hopes it magically makes you happy.