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08 Jan 2025, 12:13 am

What did someone manipulate you into doing and how did they do it?



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08 Jan 2025, 3:34 am

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
What did someone manipulate you into doing and how did they do it?


Ex's have manipulated me into believing the preposterous things that they believe, through frequent repetition and demonstration of their rhetoric, and also into coughing up money for their nonsensical and wasteful purchases of future additions to the city landfill. It is simply a matter of their believing a lie and repeating it incessantly as though it were the golden truth set down in times forgotten and making it clear that my acceptance of this garbage was essential to retaining their continued goodwill.


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09 Jan 2025, 9:18 pm

2023, a hacker had the nerve to manipulate me into giving him my bank account passwords. however, the bank manager saved me from losing my $$$. thank buddha.

2004, a "friend" had the nerve to manipulate me into lending him my car keys. he said he'd come back the next day and he didn't come back. two months later, i found my car. since then, i have not trusted anyone else or even myself, so i have not had a car, so i won't be able to do anything wrong with the car.

2012, my "friend" cory had the nerve to manipulate me into taking community college classes (so that i could apply for internships that required interns to be students). that idea might've been good in a different situation, but it was also extremely ineffective and inefficient. not worth the time, $$$ and energy it took to get there.



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10 Jan 2025, 12:58 am

Gentleman Argentum wrote:
shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
What did someone manipulate you into doing and how did they do it?


Ex's have manipulated me into believing the preposterous things that they believe, through frequent repetition and demonstration of their rhetoric, and also into coughing up money for their nonsensical and wasteful purchases of future additions to the city landfill. It is simply a matter of their believing a lie and repeating it incessantly as though it were the golden truth set down in times forgotten and making it clear that my acceptance of this garbage was essential to retaining their continued goodwill.


Now why does that sound familiar?
Perchance, had they an obvious fake tan?



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14 Jan 2025, 9:39 am

I used to work with a fake friend who I am pretty sure had to had narcissistic traits. Anyway, she would use manipulative tactics though the form of triangulation. While she convinced me that we were work "Best friends," she convinced my other co-workers that she hated me. Then when a new co-worker came along, I would tell her that we were best friend while other people at work said that I was lying.

I also lived with a roommate who would abused me emotionally when no one was around. Then when other people were around, she was nice



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15 Jan 2025, 6:29 pm

shortfatbalduglyman wrote:
2023, a hacker had the nerve to manipulate me into giving him my bank account passwords. however, the bank manager saved me from losing my $$$. thank buddha.

2004, a "friend" had the nerve to manipulate me into lending him my car keys. he said he'd come back the next day and he didn't come back. two months later, i found my car. since then, i have not trusted anyone else or even myself, so i have not had a car, so i won't be able to do anything wrong with the car.

2012, my "friend" cory had the nerve to manipulate me into taking community college classes (so that i could apply for internships that required interns to be students). that idea might've been good in a different situation, but it was also extremely ineffective and inefficient. not worth the time, $$$ and energy it took to get there.


Cory's manipulation does not sound that bad. The other two are terrible.

Unfortunately, we can't trust anything coming out of a phone, email, letter, or social media. For now, we can trust the evidence of our eyes in the physical realm. That is, if somebody looks like who they say they are, they probably are same. But nothing else can be trusted online or over the phone.

AI-generation of images & even human voices has made scamming really dangerous even for experienced folks...


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