Being likeable.

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I’ve been told that wanting to be likeable shouldn’t be a priority. Liking myself should be the goal. But, I can’t help myself. I want people to like me. I just want to be an easy person to be around.

(I googled how to spell ‘likeable’. I get the red dotted-line but I think it’s correct)

Hello...

It is something hard to achieve. It is better to just enjoy doing your own thing, and enjoy your life.

The problem with trying to make your self liked is that you will be doing all the work and others will put conditions on what they want you to be like. This is difficult to keep doing. You get mentally tired and if one has done it for too long, one can get burnout/breakdown.

So better to be friendly, but do not change who you are. I hope this makes sense?

Thanks for the reply.

Doing my own thing can, at times, make me feel lost. I know I should be more confident with who I am (punk rock!) but I don’t know. I grew up with sisters. I didn’t talk much. I followed them around when they went shopping, or whatever else. I suppose that I should take charge of my life. I’m not getting younger. Thanks again for your words.

I like trains. Always have liked trains. Punk rock is interesting.